Who do you trust to provide?

Who do you trust to provide?

Are you stressed when your checking account is overdrawn. You thought you had more money than you actually did. You are broke. Now what are you going to do?

Who do you trust

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If you find yourself hanging your head, here are a few things that you can do to find help.

Find Healthy Financial Advisors

Turning on the Dave Ramsey show can be a very smart thing to do. I have known a number of families who have been overwhelmed by debt who have turned to principles of Financial Peace and found God’s peace in their finances. We have used the “envelope system” most of our married life to budget our finances and live within our means. These principles work because they are based on God’s principles.

Find Faith in God as Your Provider and Protector

Financial pressure shows who you depend on. Do you trust God to provide for you and show you how to be a faithful steward? Or do you rely on yourself to figure everything out?

After we had adopted our sons, my husband began waking up in the middle of the night. He was stressed about the cost of the adoption and how to provide for the needs of our large family.  He realized that he was trying to figure things out himself and it was causing him to lose sleep. Wayne knew this Scripture where Jesus said,

“That is why I tell you not to worry about everyday life—whether you have enough food and drink, or enough clothes to wear. Isn’t life more than food, and your body more than clothing? Look at the birds. They don’t plant or harvest or store food in barns, for your heavenly Father feeds them. And aren’t you far more valuable to him than they are?” Matthew 6:25-26 NLT

Yet my husband Wayne, like most of us knew what Scripture said, but didn’t have a personal revelation of the Father Heart of God as his provider. He needed a fresh understanding of God’s goodness.

We also needed a fresh understanding of God as our protector. The economic downturn impacted everyone we knew. We needed to see God as the beacon of light keeping us from harm. We were concerned that in the economic stress of the time, we would be shipwrecked as a family.

Find Faith-Filled Solutions

As we began to pray together, the weight of this financial load began to lift off of my husband. We had a very clear word to sell our house to pay off the debt of the cost of our sons adoption. The economy was poor and large houses like ours were not selling well. But we believed that God had spoken to us. So we went to work as a family. We painted and had the home looking better than ever.

The real estate agent was a friend of ours. She and her husband followed in our footsteps and went to Brazil to adopt four children. We signed the contract, she put up the sign and left for the 6 week trip to Brazil. Before they returned from Brazil, not only did our house sell but we had moved out of it before she returned home to a nice commission check (which helped them pay off their adoption).

God had provided and protected us once again. Our faith in His goodness grows every time we face a difficult situation.

God is Good!

If you are in a tough place right now, know that you are not alone. Find the financial advisors to help you. Find fresh faith in God to provide for you and protect you. Find faith-filled solutions on how to walk through the situation trusting in God to help you.

I would love to hear your comments.


 

9 Words to say in healthy relationships (Linkup)

9 Words to say in healthy relationships

Do you think you are always right?

Healthy Relationships

I was in argument with my husband and I sensed that I shouldn’t say another word. But, I had 4 words that I wanted to say, to prove my point. You guessed it. These four words were the gasoline that took our disagreement into full blown war.


It’s more important for you to be in right relationship with others than to try to always be right. Admit when you are wrong it will go a long way to heal your relationships.
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Life-Giving Relationships are Mutual

My husband Wayne and I love to perform wedding ceremonies for couples. Using these following 9 words are helpful in every life-giving marriage. If you haven’t used these words in awhile, humble yourself and make them a part of your healthy relationship vocabulary.

1. I Was Wrong

If you are a human being you will make mistakes. Learning to say these simple words “I was wrong” help you to admit your short-comings. Saying “I was wrong” is the starting point of learning to change harmful habits in your own life.

Notice the words are not, YOU ARE WRONG! If you think you are always right, it shows a lack of maturity and insecurity in your life. You may feel pressured to perform. Your confidence is built on your performance.

Living as a disciple of Christ calls each of us to stay connected in life-giving relationship with the ultimate Life-Giver. Jesus said this,

“I am the Vine, you are the branches. When you’re joined with me and I with you, the relation intimate and organic, the harvest is sure to be abundant. Separated, you can’t produce a thing. Anyone who separates from me is deadwood, gathered up and thrown on the bonfire. But if you make yourselves at home with me and my words are at home in you, you can be sure that whatever you ask will be listened to and acted upon. This is how my Father shows who he is—when you produce grapes, when you mature as my disciples.

John 15:5-8 MSG

Jesus is the only perfect human being who came to do with His father in heaven told him to do. Only God is right all the time. A big weight will come off of your shoulders when you realize that apart from Him you can do nothing.

2. I Am Sorry

The beautiful words “I am sorry” only mean something if you are willing to change. By staying in an intimate life-giving relationship with Jesus, his life will flow into you if you stay connected to Him. Inevitably, there will be habits in your life that need to be pruned for even more healthy relationships

Learning to say “I am sorry” in words and actions will change your life. The good news is that saying “I was wrong, I’m sorry…” does not mean “I’m terrible, I can’t do anything right…” There is no shame in being sorry.

If you have made Jesus Lord of your life, He has already freed you from condemnation. Add this Scripture to one that you meditate on:

“So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus. And because you belong to him, the power of the life-giving Spirit has freed you from the power of sin that leads to death.”

Romans 8:1-2 NLT

There is no condemnation for you. You don’t have to live under a low-lying cloud of condemnation feeling worthless about yourself if you get something wrong. There is freedom to say “I’m sorry” because you know that Jesus has already paid for your sin and guilt on the cross. It’s from that freedom, that you can and should acknowledge to your spouse and others when you have been wrong.

3. Please Forgive Me

To forgive someone is to cancel their debt. Before you are able to get to the point of genuinely saying these 9 words, you need to forgive them. You need to stop being angry and resentful for what they have done to you. When you have been hurt by someone, that hurt clouds your judgement. You may only see what they have done to you.

If you forgive them from the heart, the life-giving spirit of God freely shows you the way that you have fallen short in the relationship too. The Holy Spirit will also protect you from taking on blame or condemnation that is an exaggeration of your offense. You are able to take responsibility for your action, without being beat-up on the inside of you.

Life Giving Relationships Last

When there is mutual love and respect in relationships they last. Toxic relationships are marked by manipulation, control, condemnation, and blaming. Any cycle of ongoing abuse needs the help of life-giving counsel for health to be restored in your relationship.

I would love to hear your comments on this. Leave your comment below or join the Life-Giving Linkup!

#LifeGivingLinkup Time!

We all need encouragement. No matter what stage of life, we need others to share the journey with us. We don’t want to be alone. It’s more fun together. Let’s Linkup in a life-giving journey of encouraging each other.


A Call to Character

A Call to Character 

Character is developed through an intimate walk with God. As moms we need to learn to walk with God in a new way.  Like little children, we need to keep our hands in God’s hand as He leads us. He has given us His character through the fruit of His Spirit.

A Call to Character

When you are walking in Christ’s character, you will have gentleness with your children, you won’t jerk them around while buckling their car seat. If you have patience, you won’t scream at them in irritation or glare at them in anger. If you have kindness, you won’t shake or slap your child. If you walk as a life-giving mom, you will discipline your children in love.

Love Your Identity: Overcoming Manipulation

Love Your Identity in Christ

If you are trying to live up to an image of what it looks like to be a perfect parent, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. The only perfect parent is our Father in heaven. Although He was a perfect parent and He had provided a paradise for Adam and Eve to live in, they still chose to disobey Him. As a human race, we chose to rebel against our perfect Father.

Love your identity