How to Stop the Crazy Cycle in Your Marriage

How to stop the crazy cycle

How to Stop the Crazy Cycle

Let’s face it, relationships are not easy. 80% of the time your marriage may feel like it is smooth sailing, but 20% of the time you may hit a storm. If year after year in a marriage, you hit the same storm it can be disheartening. You want to learn how to stop the crazy cycle in time for Christmas!

The Need for Love and Respect

. In times of conflict, men and women may speak a different language. Dr. Emerson Eggerich talks about the “Pink and Blue Difference” in this video:

Stop the Crazy Cycle in time for Christmas!

If you have been feeling that crazy stress that comes from the crazy cycle, there is good news – you can get off of the cycle in time for the Holidays! In fact, you can choose today to offer love and respect to your spouse not based on whether or not they deserve it, but based on the goodness of what Jesus has done for you.

The person who get’s off the merry-go-round of blame first is the spouse with the most maturity. You can see that you aren’t getting anywhere on the crazy cycle. So take some simple advice, and show your husband some respect and your wife some love. I know, it seems overly-simplified… but try it. For some couples that we have walked through in this process, this foundation of love and respect was a game-changer for their marriage.

9 Traits of a Life-Giving Marriage

We are receiving some amazing testimonies of how God has used 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Marriage to help build a relationship that lasts. Here are a few comments from readers.

“I wish I would have read this during our first year of marriage, when everything was new and a little confusing. I had many “okay I’m normal!” moments while reading and thinking in retrospect. I especially liked how Sue really took the time to encourage the reader to evaluate his/her relationship with Christ. We get so caught up in a title rather than a lifestyle. I think this has been an excellent reading endeavor, and I will recommend it to all my married and soon to be married friends.” Maddie

“I appreciated the vulnerability shown throughout the pages, along with Sue’s willingness to share personal stories from her own marriage- the good and the bad. We can learn from each other, and this book had the tone of a wise, older sister, sharing her wisdom out of love, with a desire to see marriages succeed.” Dawn Klinge

Truly a delightful, uplifting read with a spirit-driven plan to sustain both partners in a life-long marriage!” Angela

“This book is both encouraging and real, and would make a great gift too! Practical and biblical advice whether married, or preparing for marriage.” Dorris Swift

9 Traits of a Life-Giving Marriage

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Give a Gift in Time for the Holidays

You can give a gift to someone you love in time for the holidays (even if that someone is you!) Click here to get your autographed copy of 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Marriage

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Abundant Life

Do you struggle with discouragement?

The enemy wants to discourage you. He wants to destroy you and your relationships.  We know from scripture that the thief does not come except to steal, to kill and to destroy, but Jesus came to bring life and that we may have it more abundantly.  This verse carries both a warning and a promise.  The warning is you have a very real enemy.  He seeks to steal, and to kill and destroy.

The enemy attacks during those times of stress when life is overwhelming, but Jesus promises abundant life.  Just like Jesus went to the cross and came out the winner so can you.

Be Encouraged Every Day!

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5 Things You Can Do Now to Get Ready for Christmas

Get ready for Christmas

Get Ready for Christmas

This morning before worship, we took our daughter to breakfast. As I looked up from my omelet, who would be walking in the door of Snug on the Square in Mckinney Texas, but Santa Clause himself. Sadly, Santa was walking in a little bit lost. He asked for directions.

Get Ready for Christmas

Have you ever felt a little lost when it came to the holidays. You may have felt a growing anxiety as your Christmas things to do just kept growing. You had your notes on what you needed to do to create the perfect holiday:

1. Buy perfect holiday gifts (go into debt if you need to).

2. Take flawless family pictures (bribe the kids if you need to).

3. Take ridiculously expensive trips (remember you are impressing your Facebook friends).

The problems with this materialistic approach to Christmas, is that you can have a beautifully decorated home but not have Christmas in your heart. 

10 Things You Can Do Now to Get Ready for Christmas

So this year, begin the holiday season by going deeper. Unlike tinsel on a Christmas tree that always falls off, get’s trampled underfoot and thrown away — make your Christmas season centered around Christ.

1. Take time to look back at your year.

If you have been journalling through your year, go back and look at the key things that God has said to you. Ask these questions:

  • How has God answered your prayers?
  • How has God provided for you?
  • What relationships have enriched your life?
  • What losses have you suffered?
  • What victories have you gained?

2. Forgive Everyone who Hurt you this year.

Undoubtedly there have been people and situations that have hurt you this year. You are human. There is no shame in this, you simply need to release those who have hurt you and truly forgive. This is more than just voicing some words, “I’m sorry” Forgiveness is about cleansing your heart of residual pain and loss.

3. Thank Everyone who has helped you this year.

One of the best ways to be free from bitterness is to go a step farther beyond forgiveness and enter the pathway of hope. Take time to thank every single person who has helped you this year. Sit down and make a list. Write thank you cards, or include your thank in your Christmas Cards. 

4. Take Time Praying for Your Family

You may pray regularly for your family, yet Christmas is a great time to set aside time to pray for the particular needs of each one of those you love. Pray for the family relationships. Pray for a sensitivity to the Holy Spirit to lead you and guide you to build family traditions. If you are in a season of transition, let go of the past to make room for the new ways that you will relate as a family. It’s a big transition to go from having babies to toddlers, or from young children to teenagers, or from teenagers to adults. 

5. Take time to Worship Jesus

The best way to overcome the commercialization of the holidays, is to affirm again that the centrality of Jesus to Christmas.

If you are rushing around keeping up with how the Jones’ do Christmas, you will miss out on the sweet simplicity of the season. 

 

This passionate rendition of Mary, Did you Know by Pentatonix is a moving call to worship. This song will get you in the Christmas Spirit.

5 Things You Can Do now to get ready for Christmas Top Ten Things to Pray for your Family

As you prepare your heart and mind to be with extended family during the holiday season, here is a simple prayer card to put in your Bible or to post to remind you to pray for your family.
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Be Encouraged Every Day!

To find out more about Sue Detweiler, her books and radio ministry click here 

Multiplied Life

Do you have a large vision for your life?

The Master’s key to living and giving is placed in the hands through the overflow of his goodness.  We learn to give when we learn to seek God’s ways.  Our life becomes abundant when we start living out of his abundant love.  Freely we receive freely we give.

Giving is a life issue of living in the breath of God’s love and potential.  We expand our influence when we live in the largeness of God’s grace in giving and forgiving.   He grants relationships and resources to those he knows will give to others.

Be Encouraged Every Day!

To find out more about Sue Detweiler, her books and radio ministry click here 

Expectant Hush

Do you find yourselves rushing from place to place?

Let’s approach Christmas with an expectant hush rather than the last minute rush.  If we keep in mind the wonder and beauty of God being born on Earth, Emmanuel God with us.  The miracle of Christmas is not in the moment, but in the lifetime of lasting memories.

Traditions of lighting the tree, or decorating the cookies or singing Christmas carols, these are all family memories that build that expectancy, but it’s the sharing of the time together, the wonderment of a child being born.  Let the expectant hush of Christmas light your path today.

Be Encouraged Every Day!

To find out more about Sue Detweiler, her books and radio ministry click here 

Launching Out Into the Deep

Launching Out Into the Deep

Sometimes, God calls us to get in over our heads… Launching out into the deep requires you go deeper in your faith, hope, and trust in God.*

Jesus Calls Us Deeper

When Jesus had finished speaking, he said to Simon, Now go out where it is deeper, and let down your nets to catch some fish.”

“Master,” Simon replied, “we worked hard all last night and didn’t catch a thing. But if you say so, I’ll let the nets down again.”  And this time their nets were so full of fish they began to tear!  A shout for help brought their partners in the other boat, and soon both boats were filled with fish and on the verge of sinking.

When Simon Peter realized what had happened, he fell to his knees before Jesus and said, “Oh, Lord, please leave me—I’m such a sinful man.”  For he was awestruck by the number of fish they had caught, as were the others with him. Luke 5:4-9 NLT

Jesus called Peter to be his disciple on a rough day.  Peter and his companions had been out all night fishing and they caught nothing.  Tired, hungry, surrounded by a multitude of people, Peter tried to stretch out and clean his net so that they could go out fishing again that night. He had a lot of people depending on him as a business owner; he couldn’t afford another day without catching fish. The multitude was pressing Jesus and power was going out of Him so that everyone around was being healed (Luke 5:1-11).  Before Peter knew it, Jesus had stepped on his boat and charged him to put out a little from the land so that He could sit down and teach the crowd.  Peter didn’t mind. In fact, listening to Jesus teach made the tedious work of washing nets go faster.  He had heard about Jesus and he was curious to know if the message and the messenger was real.

After Jesus stopped speaking, he asked Peter to launch out to the deep and let down their nets for a catch.  This was completely ridiculous.  Peter, as a fisherman knew that the right time to fish was at night. He also knew that you caught more fish in shallow water.  Peter wanted to correct this rabbi, but he had spoken with such authority that he simply said “Master, we have toiled all night and caught nothing; nevertheless at Your word I will let down the net” (Luke 5:5).  It was at this point that Peter knew he was not dealing with any ordinary rabbi.  Not only did they catch fish during the day in deep waters, they caught so many fish that their net was breaking and they had to get their partners to come and help them. Both boats almost sank.  Simon Peter was so overwhelmed by the supernaturally abundant catch of fish, that he fell at Jesus’ knees and said, “Master, leave. I’m a sinner and can’t handle this holiness. Leave me to myself.”(Luke 5:8 Message)

But Jesus looked deeper into Peter.  Others saw a rough, impetuous fisherman to spoke more than he thought.  They laughed and called him “Simon” which means “shifting sand” But Jesus called him “Peter” which means rock.  He saw the potential in Peter to be a great leader who would “catch” men. 

Launching Out into the Deep Waters

Jesus is constantly calling us to launch out into deeper waters. He is calling you to go deeper in Him… to trust and rely on Him more. He wants to increase your impact on other people. He is going to multiply your efforts. Even if you have toiled all night, you can through your net on the other side of the boat and have a “supernatural-catch.” 

Be Encouraged Every Day!

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