Everyday Moments – Sue Detweiler – #LifeGivingLinkup

Everyday Moments

Everyday Moments

It’s the every day moments of being a mom that are unique. No one can take away the memories of watching your daughter take her first steps or teaching your son to ride the bike.

 Watch this video and be encouraged:

Mother’s Day 2015 from Preston Trail on Vimeo.

Yesterday I was teary eyed…

Have you ever noticed that you can have conflicting emotions as a mom. You can be happy and sad at the same time. Yesterday I was pulled by these powerful emotions. On the one hand, I had a beautiful brunch made my my daughter Sarah Faith who flew in town for Mother’s Day. With Flowers on the table from my husband and an abundance of cards from my children, I was more than blessed. So why was I teary-eyed?

Season’s Change

If you have faced any type of life-change you understand. Every mom I know holds each of her children deep in her heart. We miss each one when they are not around our table at Mother’s Day.

Everyday Moments everyday moments

I love seeing this picture of my beautiful mom and I with our matching dresses. The two pictures told a story of what our life was like as a family. I was the only girl with three older brothers. Notice how content I was before my brother stole my cat!

These everyday moments are precious!

When my daughters were all young teens, I began to do this thing that I would hold up my hands and pretend to take a picture through out the day. This was before I had an I-phone and could literally take pictures every moment. I would take these imaginary snapshots to remember the ordinary times that were in reality extraordinary.

Seizing the Season

Everyone of us as human beings face daily choices. We could hold onto the past and fight a losing battle as we try to keep everything the same, or we can move forward in faith. God’s word says,

…I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead,  I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us. Philippians 3:13-14 NLT

Living in faith in the everyday moments of our lives requires us to:

1. Let Go of Our Past

Letting go of the difficult things in our lives is not as difficult as letting go of the good things.

The most difficult thing in answering God’s call to plant a church north of Dallas Texas was that we would be leaving our adult daughters in Tennessee. Just thinking about that was heart-wrenching for me as a mom. I remember walking with my mom on a path outside our Tennessee home. At one point my mom stopped and looked at me and said, “You have a call of God on your life. You have raised your daughter’s. You need to answer God’s call. ”

I don’t know what wonderful things in your past that you need to let go of, but I do know that God will show you how to answer His call in your life. There will be bitter with the sweet. The season is changing anyway, you may as well embrace it with grace and dignity.

2. Live in the Present

What is if about your present life, that you can savor and enjoy?  Are you finding the everyday moments to delight in?  For Wayne and I, it has been discovering the joy of being happily married. We like the simplicity of eating our meals together around a smaller table with fewer dishes. We like our freedom to go on dates.

Most of all, I love the excitement of building a new church from scratch. I love being available to have “divine appointments” every day. I love building relationships with people in our community. I love the fact that God has opened doors for me to write and speak to a growing national community.

3. Lay Hold of the Future

What is it in your future that God is calling you to? Are you willing to take the risk of letting go of the past in order to lay hold of the future?  It’s really about trust isn’t it? 

Next year at this time, Life Bridge Church will be launched north of Dallas Texas. There will be a new community of faith celebrating Mother’s Day together. My husband and I and our launch team will have the privilege of “giving birth” to this body of believer’s. We will experience the miracle of being a community carrying the presence and power of Jesus Christ to everyone we meet.


God Knows and Cares (#LifeGivingLinkup)

God Knows and Cares What You Are Going Through

Reeling from the news that my husband had been laid off, I took off early in the morning for a prayer walk. I gave God my long list of concerns and ended my conversation with  “And God, we need groceries!”

Watch this video to find out how God answered my prayer!

 

God Knows and Cares about the Details of Your Life

I still smile when I remember the acquaintance that came to my door with 4 bags of groceries, enough to feed my 4 small children. She didn’t know what we were going through, but God did!

What are the unseen details of your life right now that you are crying out to God to answer. God is in the details. Pour out your heart to Him. Place the burden of your concern onto Him. He is able to carry it, you aren’t.

God Knows and Cares about Your Heart Concerns

God is able to see the big picture. He knows the concerns of your heart. He also knows what is best for you. Even when you don’t know what to pray, He does.

“And the Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness. For example, we don’t know what God wants us to pray for. But the Holy Spirit prays for us with groanings that cannot be expressed in words.And the Father who knows all hearts knows what the Spirit is saying, for the Spirit pleads for us believers in harmony with God’s own will. And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.” (Romans 8:26-28 NLT)

When I cried out to God and said, “We need groceries!”  The Holy Spirit interpreted not only my present need but my larger concern. Yes, I had an immediate need for food. But I had a larger need to know that we could trust God through the transition. Not only did this encourage me, it has encouraged everyone I have shared it with. It shows the faithful character of God.

God Knows and Cares about Your Character Development

Our character is developed as God takes us through tough seasons in our lives.

It is through trial and suffering that we become more like God.

 “We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation.” (Romans 5:3-4 NLT)

I know that everything I go through, I find I have a greater compassion for others who are experiencing what I did.

  When I am in the middle of a trial I will feel week and vulnerable.

I am stronger today because of the things I have experienced.

What about you? How has God worked in the details of your life? I would love to hear from you.


A Call to Character

A Call to Character 

Character is developed through an intimate walk with God. As moms we need to learn to walk with God in a new way.  Like little children, we need to keep our hands in God’s hand as He leads us. He has given us His character through the fruit of His Spirit.

A Call to Character

When you are walking in Christ’s character, you will have gentleness with your children, you won’t jerk them around while buckling their car seat. If you have patience, you won’t scream at them in irritation or glare at them in anger. If you have kindness, you won’t shake or slap your child. If you walk as a life-giving mom, you will discipline your children in love.

Love Your Identity: Overcoming Manipulation

Love Your Identity in Christ

If you are trying to live up to an image of what it looks like to be a perfect parent, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. The only perfect parent is our Father in heaven. Although He was a perfect parent and He had provided a paradise for Adam and Eve to live in, they still chose to disobey Him. As a human race, we chose to rebel against our perfect Father.

Love your identity

Being Your Best You

Being Your Best You

Every mom wants to be the best mom in the world for her child, but sometimes she feels like the worst. In the first 2 years of your child’s life you will lose on average 6 months of sleep! That will make anyone cranky! If you add to the mix a child that has colic in the early months, many moms feel pushed over the edge of exhaustion.

Being Your Best You

That’s how I was as a young mom. That is what has given me a heart to help moms of all ages. I want to help women embrace their God-given calling and purpose as moms.

How do you live a purpose-filled life, in the midst of your worst moments of being anxious, stressed, angry or sad?  At home, we tend to let our filters down. Our family get’s our worst, rather than our best.

I was interviewed recently on Dr. James Dobson’s Family Talk by Ryan Dobson and Dr. Meg Meeker. We talk about stress-filled situations as a mom. Listen to our first interview.

Listen to Family Talk October 15 Broadcast Here 

Be your best you

What Are You Juggling As a Mom?

What ever you are juggling as a mom, you are not alone. You are not the only one dealing with being angry. You are not the only mom that is stressed and overwhelmed. You are not the only who struggles with situations beyond your control.

The key to walking out your God-given calling as a mom, is to go to God for strength, wisdom, and encouragement. Moms need encouragement. The best encourager is God Himself.

Here are a few practical strategies that I have lived out in my life to help me be on mission as a mom:

1. Make the Word a Priority

It is so easy to let the needs of our children lead our day.  After many days ending where I felt like a failure as a mom, I began to be desperate for the Word of God. I was desperate to read the Bible early in the morning, because I knew that without it I would not have the emotional strength and stamina I needed to parent well.

One morning when my daughter Angela was around 2 she woke up and asked for breakfast. I calmly responded, “Mommy needs her breakfast first.” I then went back to reading my Bible. Angela looked curiously confused since I didn’t have any food near me. Angela asked,”Does mommy eat the Bible for Breakfast?” I laughed and said, “YES!”

The joy to me about telling that story today, is that I know exactly what my 22 year old married daughter Angela did this morning. Although we now live in different states, I know that she got up and read the word of God, journaled and prayed. Angela now eats the Bible for breakfast too!

Here’s the second Interview I did with Family Talk Radio:

Listen to Family Talk October 16 Broadcast Here

Be Your Best You

 

2. Remember What God has Done

Another practical strategy of living a purpose-filled life when everything seems to be going wrong is to remember what God has done! We can get so stuck in a funk of negative thinking that we forget.

Any time you are overwhelmed with a difficult circumstance, look up! Stop looking at the problem, trying to figure it out in your own strength. Look up to God. Magnify Him in your perspective. Look to Him for help.

Take time to retrace those places when God showed up and helped you. Rather than thinking about the bad things that you are facing, stand and remember the good that God has done. Put your faith in His faithfulness.

Our kids failures and mistakes are not a reflection of our identity. In the same way, we can’t  take credit when they do well. Our identity is not in a well-behaved child. Our identity is in Christ, who laid down his life for us.  Remember what God has done!

3. Pray God’s Word Out Loud

Saying the Word out loud, will strengthen your heart and change you perspective. The transformational process occurs when we bring God’s word into the midst of our difficult situation.

Here is a Scripture that I have been meditating on and praying out loud since I was a little girl:

Do not be anxious about anything,

but in every situation, by prayer and petition,

with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.

And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding,

will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Philippians 4:6-7 NIV

What are your “go-to-Scriptures” as a mom. Do you have sticky notes on your mirror reminding you of God’s Word. It is His Word that endures for ever, not your problem.

4. Admit When You Have Made Mistakes

Be honest about your worst moments. You don’t fulfill your life-purpose by pretending you are perfect. By the way, your children already know you make mistakes. You might as well admit it, and ask for God’s grace to cover you.

A mom falls short of God’s plan for her life because she is human.

For everyone has sinned;

we all fall short of God’s glorious standard.

Romans 3:23 NLT

Only God in heaven is perfect. Your role as a Life-Giving Mom is to lead your children to their perfect Father in heaven. He is the One who will understand them. He is the One who is always there when they need Him. He never fails them.

5. Be Your Best You – With God’s Help!

You will love your purpose in life, when you breath in the precious Holy Spirit every day. You are unique in all the world. You are free to be you. Just like we shouldn’t parent our children to please others. You don’t have to live your life to please others.

Live your life freely before God. It’s His standard that rules your life, not other people’s opinions. You are the one who will stand before God as His child. Aren’t you glad, that when you meet God, He won’t be frowning at you. He won’t be squinting to try to remember your name. He won’t be short-tempered with you. He loves you. He is a Life-Giving Father.

God is for you. You love your purpose when you live for God!

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Being your best you Sue Detweiler is a mother of 6, an author, speaker, and radio host with over 25 years of experience in leadership, ministry and education. When 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom was launched it hit #1 on Amazon’s Hot New Releases for Christian Women’s Issues. Sue loves to connect on her blog as well as on twitter and facebook.

 

 

 

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Why I wrote This Book

WHY i wrote this book

Why I Wrote This Book

Destiny requires bold leaps of faith. I have been asked why I wrote 9 Traits of a Life-Giving MomI didn’t go through the months of writing this book with tears streaming down my face because I am a perfect mom. There are no perfect moms. There are no perfect families.

Every mom that I know wants to be the best mom in the world for her child. But sometimes she feels like the worst. God has given imperfect women the awesome opportunity to nurture the lives of other human beings. But sometimes we feel overwhelmed. Often we fall short.

why i wrote this book I wrote 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom because I had to. I had this burden to help moms be real in their brokenness.  I wanted to create a safe place for moms of all ages to find healing and wholeness. I wanted to help mom’s embrace their God-given calling to be a Life-Giving Mom by connecting to The Ultimate Life-Giver – GOD!

My friend Teasi Cannon wrote this in her review of 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom

“One of the most encouraging things to my heart is simply knowing I’m not alone…not alone in my pain, not alone in my failures, and not alone in my journey.”

 

The Difficult Yet Life-Giving Journey

I have had the heart to write this book for 20 years. Around 7 years ago, after walking, talking and praying with my friend Pam Vredevelt I realized that writing for me was a God-given calling and a moral imperative. I didn’t want to face God at the end and hear Him say “Well, done servant…. But why didn’t you write the books that I called you to write…?”

I know God’s grace covers not only our mistakes but the things we leave undone. I also know His call. I had an undeniable burden to help others through writing books.

Finally in 2012, I took a bold step of faith. My husband and I had been at one church for 17 years. For most of those years we were associate pastors. In July, 2012 I officially stepped off of the pastoral team that I dearly loved. I laid down a ministry assignment where I had been effectively used by God.

I knew that it was God calling me… At the time, I didn’t know that He would later call us to relocate out of Nashville where we had served the city in ministry for 28 years. I didn’t know that He would call us to plant a church from SCRATCH in Texas! I didn’t know that He would call us to a why i wrote this book city where we didn’t know anyone. I didn’t know He would call us to leave our beautiful adult daughters in Tennessee, and plow the tough ground of beginning a new church.

All I knew at the time, was that He had called me to write.

I share these details with tears streaming down my face, because for me… writing this book has come at a great cost.

I have labored in prayer… I have labored in time… I have labored in study… I have labored in transparency… I have labored in repentance… I have laid it all on the line because I knew that God was calling.

So I responded, “Here am I. Send Me.” (Isaiah 6:8).

Why I wrote This Book:

1. To Obey God

I feel God’s pleasure as I have made room in my life to write. I have finally obeyed. Now I hear Him saying, “Write a book every year.” So, I have already begun writing my next book. The words are flowing out of me. I can hardly wait to get it to readers. There is a whole series of “9 Traits” books that are being birthed in my belly right now. Obeying God releases life destiny.

2. To Be Transformed

I am no longer the same woman. I have been changed and transformed through the writing process. It has given me a context to look back, search God’s Word, pray, and look forward.  I have gone through deep layers of repentance in my own life and heart. I have found God’s GRACE in a brand new life-giving, life-restoring way. His GRACE empowers me to live out my life-destiny with strength, wisdom, power, clarity and boldness.

3. To Help Moms

I love moms. I love trendy moms. I love soccer moms. I love stay-at-home moms. I love working-moms. I love single-moms. I love moms-of-special-needs-children. I love moms.

9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom has built a platform for me to come along side moms in the journey to be Life-Giving to their children.

My friend Amy Carroll  writes about 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom in this way:

“For a woman who struggles against my own perfectionism, Sue’s book comes as a breath of fresh air. It allows me to openly confess my own flaws while embracing the God-given power to overcome them. Her statement, “Go ahead and believe that He can take your worst and replace it with His best,” makes me exhale with hope…”

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What is God Calling You To Do?

Destiny requires bold leaps of faith. Are you willing to make the changes in your life that are necessary in order to obey God’s call? What life-destiny is He call you to boldly embrace? What area of brokenness is he transforming in your life? What “test” are you going through that will become your “testimony.”  I would love to hear from you. Please take time to write a comment. I read and respond to all of them.

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Why I wrote this book

 

Sue Detweiler is a mother of 6, an author, speaker, and radio host with over 25 years of experience in leadership, ministry and education. When 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom was launched it hit #1 on Amazon’s Hot New Releases for Christian Women’s Issues. Sue loves to connect on her blog as well as on twitter and facebook.