Everyday Moments – Sue Detweiler – #LifeGivingLinkup

Everyday Moments

Everyday Moments

It’s the every day moments of being a mom that are unique. No one can take away the memories of watching your daughter take her first steps or teaching your son to ride the bike.

 Watch this video and be encouraged:

Mother’s Day 2015 from Preston Trail on Vimeo.

Yesterday I was teary eyed…

Have you ever noticed that you can have conflicting emotions as a mom. You can be happy and sad at the same time. Yesterday I was pulled by these powerful emotions. On the one hand, I had a beautiful brunch made my my daughter Sarah Faith who flew in town for Mother’s Day. With Flowers on the table from my husband and an abundance of cards from my children, I was more than blessed. So why was I teary-eyed?

Season’s Change

If you have faced any type of life-change you understand. Every mom I know holds each of her children deep in her heart. We miss each one when they are not around our table at Mother’s Day.

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I love seeing this picture of my beautiful mom and I with our matching dresses. The two pictures told a story of what our life was like as a family. I was the only girl with three older brothers. Notice how content I was before my brother stole my cat!

These everyday moments are precious!

When my daughters were all young teens, I began to do this thing that I would hold up my hands and pretend to take a picture through out the day. This was before I had an I-phone and could literally take pictures every moment. I would take these imaginary snapshots to remember the ordinary times that were in reality extraordinary.

Seizing the Season

Everyone of us as human beings face daily choices. We could hold onto the past and fight a losing battle as we try to keep everything the same, or we can move forward in faith. God’s word says,

…I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead,  I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us. Philippians 3:13-14 NLT

Living in faith in the everyday moments of our lives requires us to:

1. Let Go of Our Past

Letting go of the difficult things in our lives is not as difficult as letting go of the good things.

The most difficult thing in answering God’s call to plant a church north of Dallas Texas was that we would be leaving our adult daughters in Tennessee. Just thinking about that was heart-wrenching for me as a mom. I remember walking with my mom on a path outside our Tennessee home. At one point my mom stopped and looked at me and said, “You have a call of God on your life. You have raised your daughter’s. You need to answer God’s call. ”

I don’t know what wonderful things in your past that you need to let go of, but I do know that God will show you how to answer His call in your life. There will be bitter with the sweet. The season is changing anyway, you may as well embrace it with grace and dignity.

2. Live in the Present

What is if about your present life, that you can savor and enjoy?  Are you finding the everyday moments to delight in?  For Wayne and I, it has been discovering the joy of being happily married. We like the simplicity of eating our meals together around a smaller table with fewer dishes. We like our freedom to go on dates.

Most of all, I love the excitement of building a new church from scratch. I love being available to have “divine appointments” every day. I love building relationships with people in our community. I love the fact that God has opened doors for me to write and speak to a growing national community.

3. Lay Hold of the Future

What is it in your future that God is calling you to? Are you willing to take the risk of letting go of the past in order to lay hold of the future?  It’s really about trust isn’t it? 

Next year at this time, Life Bridge Church will be launched north of Dallas Texas. There will be a new community of faith celebrating Mother’s Day together. My husband and I and our launch team will have the privilege of “giving birth” to this body of believer’s. We will experience the miracle of being a community carrying the presence and power of Jesus Christ to everyone we meet.


Filled with Joy (Link Up)

Filled with Joy

Filled with Joy

Do you think you need to wait till your circumstances are just right to be full of joy?

When my children were small, I didn’t think that there would ever be a time that I wasn’t changing diapers, nursing, or waking up in the middle of the night. But my wise mother used to say “This too shall pass.” AND it did.

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Now as my adult children launch into the world, I miss the times that I could hold them in my arms. It was much easier to wipe away their tears.

It is bittersweet being a mom of adult children. I rejoice in the wonder of launching children into adulthood. Yet, I miss the everyday struggle of being a mom of little ones.

Yesterday, my college daughters arrived for Spring break in Hannah’s car. They drove the whole way having “sister-time.” We sat on the couch and cuddled watching a movie. It felt like old times – but not really. Everything has changed.

As long as we are in this world, we will experience change. But change does not need to stop the flow of joy. Joy is a fountain of life that flows from God Himself.

So this morning as my children sleep in our condo, I reminisce about the old days of when they were young. When I never had enough time for myself…

Tweet: I know that I have to let go of the past, live in the present, and lay hold of the future. http://ctt.ec/M1fCF+  Join #LifeGivingLinkupI know that I have to let go of the past, live in the present, and lay hold of the future. I remind myself of this verse:

No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us. Philippians 3:13-14 NLT.

We never reach the perfect stage of life. We are always letting go of wonderful things in life to reach forward to the next season.

I am filled with Joy when…

… I let go of the past, but cherish it’s sweetness.

… I live in the present, and embrace the new normal.

… I lay hold of the future, with hope and expectation.

#LifeGivingLinkup Time

 
We all need encouragement. No matter what stage of life, we need others to share the journey with us. We don’t want to be alone. It’s more fun together.

Sometimes, I experience lonely days.  Days when I need encouragement. If you are an author, speaker, blogger you know what I mean. You began your blog to encourage others, but sometimes you feel alone.

It doesn’t need to stay that way! Let’s Linkup in a life-giving journey of encouraging each other.

Here is How a #LifeGivingLinkup Works:

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Let’s encourage each other!

Sue

 

 

Being Your Best You

Being Your Best You

Every mom wants to be the best mom in the world for her child, but sometimes she feels like the worst. In the first 2 years of your child’s life you will lose on average 6 months of sleep! That will make anyone cranky! If you add to the mix a child that has colic in the early months, many moms feel pushed over the edge of exhaustion.

Being Your Best You

That’s how I was as a young mom. That is what has given me a heart to help moms of all ages. I want to help women embrace their God-given calling and purpose as moms.

How do you live a purpose-filled life, in the midst of your worst moments of being anxious, stressed, angry or sad?  At home, we tend to let our filters down. Our family get’s our worst, rather than our best.

I was interviewed recently on Dr. James Dobson’s Family Talk by Ryan Dobson and Dr. Meg Meeker. We talk about stress-filled situations as a mom. Listen to our first interview.

Listen to Family Talk October 15 Broadcast Here 

Be your best you

What Are You Juggling As a Mom?

What ever you are juggling as a mom, you are not alone. You are not the only one dealing with being angry. You are not the only mom that is stressed and overwhelmed. You are not the only who struggles with situations beyond your control.

The key to walking out your God-given calling as a mom, is to go to God for strength, wisdom, and encouragement. Moms need encouragement. The best encourager is God Himself.

Here are a few practical strategies that I have lived out in my life to help me be on mission as a mom:

1. Make the Word a Priority

It is so easy to let the needs of our children lead our day.  After many days ending where I felt like a failure as a mom, I began to be desperate for the Word of God. I was desperate to read the Bible early in the morning, because I knew that without it I would not have the emotional strength and stamina I needed to parent well.

One morning when my daughter Angela was around 2 she woke up and asked for breakfast. I calmly responded, “Mommy needs her breakfast first.” I then went back to reading my Bible. Angela looked curiously confused since I didn’t have any food near me. Angela asked,”Does mommy eat the Bible for Breakfast?” I laughed and said, “YES!”

The joy to me about telling that story today, is that I know exactly what my 22 year old married daughter Angela did this morning. Although we now live in different states, I know that she got up and read the word of God, journaled and prayed. Angela now eats the Bible for breakfast too!

Here’s the second Interview I did with Family Talk Radio:

Listen to Family Talk October 16 Broadcast Here

Be Your Best You

 

2. Remember What God has Done

Another practical strategy of living a purpose-filled life when everything seems to be going wrong is to remember what God has done! We can get so stuck in a funk of negative thinking that we forget.

Any time you are overwhelmed with a difficult circumstance, look up! Stop looking at the problem, trying to figure it out in your own strength. Look up to God. Magnify Him in your perspective. Look to Him for help.

Take time to retrace those places when God showed up and helped you. Rather than thinking about the bad things that you are facing, stand and remember the good that God has done. Put your faith in His faithfulness.

Our kids failures and mistakes are not a reflection of our identity. In the same way, we can’t  take credit when they do well. Our identity is not in a well-behaved child. Our identity is in Christ, who laid down his life for us.  Remember what God has done!

3. Pray God’s Word Out Loud

Saying the Word out loud, will strengthen your heart and change you perspective. The transformational process occurs when we bring God’s word into the midst of our difficult situation.

Here is a Scripture that I have been meditating on and praying out loud since I was a little girl:

Do not be anxious about anything,

but in every situation, by prayer and petition,

with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.

And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding,

will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Philippians 4:6-7 NIV

What are your “go-to-Scriptures” as a mom. Do you have sticky notes on your mirror reminding you of God’s Word. It is His Word that endures for ever, not your problem.

4. Admit When You Have Made Mistakes

Be honest about your worst moments. You don’t fulfill your life-purpose by pretending you are perfect. By the way, your children already know you make mistakes. You might as well admit it, and ask for God’s grace to cover you.

A mom falls short of God’s plan for her life because she is human.

For everyone has sinned;

we all fall short of God’s glorious standard.

Romans 3:23 NLT

Only God in heaven is perfect. Your role as a Life-Giving Mom is to lead your children to their perfect Father in heaven. He is the One who will understand them. He is the One who is always there when they need Him. He never fails them.

5. Be Your Best You – With God’s Help!

You will love your purpose in life, when you breath in the precious Holy Spirit every day. You are unique in all the world. You are free to be you. Just like we shouldn’t parent our children to please others. You don’t have to live your life to please others.

Live your life freely before God. It’s His standard that rules your life, not other people’s opinions. You are the one who will stand before God as His child. Aren’t you glad, that when you meet God, He won’t be frowning at you. He won’t be squinting to try to remember your name. He won’t be short-tempered with you. He loves you. He is a Life-Giving Father.

God is for you. You love your purpose when you live for God!

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Being your best you Sue Detweiler is a mother of 6, an author, speaker, and radio host with over 25 years of experience in leadership, ministry and education. When 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom was launched it hit #1 on Amazon’s Hot New Releases for Christian Women’s Issues. Sue loves to connect on her blog as well as on twitter and facebook.

 

 

 

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Christian Parenting is Founded on HOPE

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Mother of Bride

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This morning my mom who is 77-years-old ran through the house shouting “Wedding Bells are Ringing! Wedding Bells are Ringing!”  We all laughed and gathered around the see the table setting that Rachel has prepared for her wedding reception that will take place in 3 days. 

Selfless Love

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selfless love

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Overcome Anger

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Have you ever seen your own angry red face in the reflection of a mirror? I never knew I had anger issues until I was faced with the daunting task of potty-training a toddler. By the fourth mishap of the day I was pulling off Rachel’s jeans with such force that I am sure it scared her. Then I screamed and caught my face reflecting back at me in the mirror: ugly, red, distorted by rage. This was the face my daughter was seeing.