15 Things to Give Up in the New Year

As we move into 2017, here are 15 Things to Give Up in the New Year.  If you give up these 15 things you will experience more joy and fulfillment than every before.  Take time to prayerfully reflect on letting these 15 things go forever. Here’s a guide to help you take a spiritual retreat for the New Year.  Click Here to Download

Things to Give up

1. Doubting yourself

To doubt is to plummet into a sea of uncertainty where you lack conviction. If you allow this uncertainty to grow it will cause you to hold back, to hesitate and procrastinate.  Doubting will paralyze you and keep you from obtaining the fullness of your destiny. Your indecision will cause you to lack the confidence that you need to move forward into the New Year in faith.

2. Negative Thinking
A Pessimistic view will skew reality and put you in a bad mood. If you change your thinking you will change your world view. If you have a gloomy attitude heading into 2017, you will not be able to accomplish much. Negativity steals the joy out of life. As you go into the new year think on these things:

“And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.” Philippians 4:8 NLT.

When you think on the positive of your identity in Christ your future will open up to you.

3. Fear of Failure

The Fear of Failure can sabotage your success. Fear is an unpleasant emotion that causes worry and anxiety. You begin to feel uneasy about your future. Let go of the fear of failure and ask for help. Embrace the fact that everyone makes mistakes. Be at peace with yourself and stop trying so hard. Do not let the fear of failure control whether you say “yes” or “no.” Joyce Meyer says, “Just because you feel fear doesn’t mean you can’t do it. Do it afraid”

4. Destructive Relationships

As you go into the New Year do not allow destructive relationships to control you. When you experience daily injury from another person through violent behavior you need to be safe from harm. Hostile relationships do not help you walk in peace. It’s important not to let go of our covenant relationships easily. Conflict can be an opportunity for greater intimacy. However, when a relationship has become detrimental to your health and well-being it is important to put up healthy boundaries.

5. Gossiping

Repeating rumors starts wars. Idol gossip assassinates someones reputation. Unfounded slander divides relationships. Gossip is destructive to you and your relationships.

Proverbs 16:28  says, A troublemaker plants seeds of strife;gossip separates the best of friends.

Giving up gossip is also determining in your heart that you won’t listen to slander about someone else.

6. Criticizing yourself and others

Gossip quickly leads to criticizing others in your mind and attitude. When you are constantly finding fault with another person you are no longer able to see or perceive clearly.

“Don’t bad-mouth each other, friends. It’s God’s Word, his Message, his Royal Rule, that takes a beating in that kind of talk. You’re supposed to be honoring the Message, not writing graffiti all over it. God is in charge of deciding human destiny. Who do you think you are to meddle in the destiny of others?” James 4:11 MSG

When you put a stop to your critical attitude towards others, remember not to be critical or disapproving of yourself. Give yourself a break. Be gracious in how you think about yourself.

7. Anger

Anger can be a smoldering wick of quiet condemnation or it can be a violent outburst of wrath. Either way, when you have uncontrolled anger in your life it is like opening the door to a thief and inviting him to come in and take over.

“And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil.” Ephesians 4:26-27 NLT.

Overcome your anger with God’s love. Forgive others and be free of all hostility.

8. Comfort Eating

In 2017 its time to let go of comfort eating. The next time you are tired, angry or stressed notice what you do. Do you find yourself looking in the pantry trying to find something to eat? Do you stop by a convenience store to buy your favorite snack? Do you think in your mind, “I deserve this because of my hard day?”  It’s time to let go of habits that are self-destructive.

9. Laziness

If you are unwilling to work or use energy, you may be struggling with laziness. You may not know it because you have been lying on the couch watching re-runs too unmotivated to get up and do something productive. Remember those things that fire up your passion. Begin to focus your mind and heart on your God-given destiny and shake off any laziness.

10. Negative Self-Talk

When I was pregnant with my first daughter I was unprepared for how hard pregnancy would be. I found myself waddling around frustrated. Out of my mouth came these words, “I hate life.”What a terrible thing to say when you are pregnant and carrying life.

The enemy of our souls constantly belittles. If you are not careful you will mimic the enemy’s negative words. What are those words or phrases that you find yourself saying over and over in your mind that then it spills out your mouth?

  • I ALWAYS blow it
  • I can’t do anything right.
  • No one really likes me anyway.

Let go of these destructive words and begin to make positive confessions about your future and hope.

11. Procrastination

If you constantly delay or postpone what you know you should do, you are just creating strife in your life. Procrastination robs your potential. Don’t be denied what God is calling you to do.  Take advantage of the positive momentum of the New Year to focus on what is really important to you. As you focus on your priorities it will help you take one step forward at a time. You can do it!

12 Fear of Success

Your feelings of anxiety can get mixed up with your true desire to succeed in life. You may fear that you may be unable to cope with the responsibilities of success. You may be anxious that others will reject you. Or you may dread becoming someone else. The fear of success is debilitating. You were made for success.

“For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.” Ephesians 2:10 NLT.

You have been created for a purpose. Success in God’s eyes is doing the good things that He prepared for you. His grace is sufficient for all that He has called you to do.

13. Anything Excessive

God has made all things for us to enjoy. However, anytime that we over-indulge in  good things it is destructive. In 2014 it is time to give up the excessive lifestyle of over-shopping, over-eating, over-indulging and to walk in self-control. Self control is a godly virtue that more of us need to embrace. His divine enablement helps us to quit addictive behaviors.

14. People Pleasing

You will sink your own ship if you trying to get everyone on board. In order for you to be the original creation of God, you have to accept that you won’t be everyone’s cup of tea. You won’t be able to please everyone all of the time.  So in 2014 become a God-pleaser rather than a man-pleaser.

15. Fear of Future
Here we are at the intersection of time. If you blink, your present becomes your future. When you fear your future you welcome death. None of us are able to live in the past or stay in the present. Our lives are always moving forward with the greater cosmic picture of the universe.

The best way to let go of your fear of the future is to trust the ONE who holds your future. Trust in God who will never disappoint. That doesn’t mean that your life won’t at times be disappointing. It means rather that God is bigger the menial minutia of each day. His perspective ALWAYS bring life, hope and peace.

2017 is a Year of Open Doors

God’s perspective welcomes and even yearns for the future. The world we live in is wasting away, but the future shines brightly in eternity. Get your copy of 21 Days to Spiritual Breakthrough now! Click Here to Download

How to Stop the Crazy Cycle in Your Marriage

How to stop the crazy cycle

How to Stop the Crazy Cycle

Let’s face it, relationships are not easy. 80% of the time your marriage may feel like it is smooth sailing, but 20% of the time you may hit a storm. If year after year in a marriage, you hit the same storm it can be disheartening. You want to learn how to stop the crazy cycle in time for Christmas!

The Need for Love and Respect

. In times of conflict, men and women may speak a different language. Dr. Emerson Eggerich talks about the “Pink and Blue Difference” in this video:

Stop the Crazy Cycle in time for Christmas!

If you have been feeling that crazy stress that comes from the crazy cycle, there is good news – you can get off of the cycle in time for the Holidays! In fact, you can choose today to offer love and respect to your spouse not based on whether or not they deserve it, but based on the goodness of what Jesus has done for you.

The person who get’s off the merry-go-round of blame first is the spouse with the most maturity. You can see that you aren’t getting anywhere on the crazy cycle. So take some simple advice, and show your husband some respect and your wife some love. I know, it seems overly-simplified… but try it. For some couples that we have walked through in this process, this foundation of love and respect was a game-changer for their marriage.

9 Traits of a Life-Giving Marriage

We are receiving some amazing testimonies of how God has used 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Marriage to help build a relationship that lasts. Here are a few comments from readers.

“I wish I would have read this during our first year of marriage, when everything was new and a little confusing. I had many “okay I’m normal!” moments while reading and thinking in retrospect. I especially liked how Sue really took the time to encourage the reader to evaluate his/her relationship with Christ. We get so caught up in a title rather than a lifestyle. I think this has been an excellent reading endeavor, and I will recommend it to all my married and soon to be married friends.” Maddie

“I appreciated the vulnerability shown throughout the pages, along with Sue’s willingness to share personal stories from her own marriage- the good and the bad. We can learn from each other, and this book had the tone of a wise, older sister, sharing her wisdom out of love, with a desire to see marriages succeed.” Dawn Klinge

Truly a delightful, uplifting read with a spirit-driven plan to sustain both partners in a life-long marriage!” Angela

“This book is both encouraging and real, and would make a great gift too! Practical and biblical advice whether married, or preparing for marriage.” Dorris Swift

9 Traits of a Life-Giving Marriage

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Give a Gift in Time for the Holidays

You can give a gift to someone you love in time for the holidays (even if that someone is you!) Click here to get your autographed copy of 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Marriage

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Abundant Life

Do you struggle with discouragement?

The enemy wants to discourage you. He wants to destroy you and your relationships.  We know from scripture that the thief does not come except to steal, to kill and to destroy, but Jesus came to bring life and that we may have it more abundantly.  This verse carries both a warning and a promise.  The warning is you have a very real enemy.  He seeks to steal, and to kill and destroy.

The enemy attacks during those times of stress when life is overwhelming, but Jesus promises abundant life.  Just like Jesus went to the cross and came out the winner so can you.

Be Encouraged Every Day!

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5 Things You Can Do Now to Get Ready for Christmas

Get ready for Christmas

Get Ready for Christmas

This morning before worship, we took our daughter to breakfast. As I looked up from my omelet, who would be walking in the door of Snug on the Square in Mckinney Texas, but Santa Clause himself. Sadly, Santa was walking in a little bit lost. He asked for directions.

Get Ready for Christmas

Have you ever felt a little lost when it came to the holidays. You may have felt a growing anxiety as your Christmas things to do just kept growing. You had your notes on what you needed to do to create the perfect holiday:

1. Buy perfect holiday gifts (go into debt if you need to).

2. Take flawless family pictures (bribe the kids if you need to).

3. Take ridiculously expensive trips (remember you are impressing your Facebook friends).

The problems with this materialistic approach to Christmas, is that you can have a beautifully decorated home but not have Christmas in your heart. 

10 Things You Can Do Now to Get Ready for Christmas

So this year, begin the holiday season by going deeper. Unlike tinsel on a Christmas tree that always falls off, get’s trampled underfoot and thrown away — make your Christmas season centered around Christ.

1. Take time to look back at your year.

If you have been journalling through your year, go back and look at the key things that God has said to you. Ask these questions:

  • How has God answered your prayers?
  • How has God provided for you?
  • What relationships have enriched your life?
  • What losses have you suffered?
  • What victories have you gained?

2. Forgive Everyone who Hurt you this year.

Undoubtedly there have been people and situations that have hurt you this year. You are human. There is no shame in this, you simply need to release those who have hurt you and truly forgive. This is more than just voicing some words, “I’m sorry” Forgiveness is about cleansing your heart of residual pain and loss.

3. Thank Everyone who has helped you this year.

One of the best ways to be free from bitterness is to go a step farther beyond forgiveness and enter the pathway of hope. Take time to thank every single person who has helped you this year. Sit down and make a list. Write thank you cards, or include your thank in your Christmas Cards. 

4. Take Time Praying for Your Family

You may pray regularly for your family, yet Christmas is a great time to set aside time to pray for the particular needs of each one of those you love. Pray for the family relationships. Pray for a sensitivity to the Holy Spirit to lead you and guide you to build family traditions. If you are in a season of transition, let go of the past to make room for the new ways that you will relate as a family. It’s a big transition to go from having babies to toddlers, or from young children to teenagers, or from teenagers to adults. 

5. Take time to Worship Jesus

The best way to overcome the commercialization of the holidays, is to affirm again that the centrality of Jesus to Christmas.

If you are rushing around keeping up with how the Jones’ do Christmas, you will miss out on the sweet simplicity of the season. 

 

This passionate rendition of Mary, Did you Know by Pentatonix is a moving call to worship. This song will get you in the Christmas Spirit.

5 Things You Can Do now to get ready for Christmas Top Ten Things to Pray for your Family

As you prepare your heart and mind to be with extended family during the holiday season, here is a simple prayer card to put in your Bible or to post to remind you to pray for your family.
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Be Encouraged Every Day!

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Multiplied Life

Do you have a large vision for your life?

The Master’s key to living and giving is placed in the hands through the overflow of his goodness.  We learn to give when we learn to seek God’s ways.  Our life becomes abundant when we start living out of his abundant love.  Freely we receive freely we give.

Giving is a life issue of living in the breath of God’s love and potential.  We expand our influence when we live in the largeness of God’s grace in giving and forgiving.   He grants relationships and resources to those he knows will give to others.

Be Encouraged Every Day!

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Expectant Hush

Do you find yourselves rushing from place to place?

Let’s approach Christmas with an expectant hush rather than the last minute rush.  If we keep in mind the wonder and beauty of God being born on Earth, Emmanuel God with us.  The miracle of Christmas is not in the moment, but in the lifetime of lasting memories.

Traditions of lighting the tree, or decorating the cookies or singing Christmas carols, these are all family memories that build that expectancy, but it’s the sharing of the time together, the wonderment of a child being born.  Let the expectant hush of Christmas light your path today.

Be Encouraged Every Day!

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