4 Ways to Enjoy Being a Mom

4 Ways to Enjoy Being a Mom

It’s the fourth of July and you want the fireworks that you experience as a family to be in the sky, not an explosion of anger in your home. To celebrate your freedom in Christ, lets talk about 4 steps to let some of the hot air out of your anger.

1. Laugh

I don’t know about you, but I need a dose of humor in order to be a good mom. It’s one of the things that as I look back at my mistakes as a parent, I wish I would have laughed more at the toddler mishaps. Experts say “a well-developed sense of humor can boost a person’s immune system, contribute to a more optimistic outlook on life, and increase self-esteem.”*

In tense situations laughter is good medicine – so laugh! Laugh at yourself and how intense you are. If you are too upset to laugh, take a break. Watch a fun movie to get your mind off the problem. Let the toxicity of the moment evaporate so that you are able to see the truth in the situation rather than the exaggerated details of your mind.

Bill Cosby said, “Through humor, you can soften some of the worst blows that life delivers. And once you find laughter, no matter how painful your situation might be, you can survive it. ”

2. Listen

When I become angry, usually it is a red flag that I am thinking negative thoughts that lead to irrational feelings. Usually I am putting myself and my goals before others. It’s in those moments that if I can silence myself and listen to God and listen to the needs of others. Even a cranky toddler can be communicating that they are tired and need a nap or hungry and need a snack. If I truly stop and listen I am more likely to respond in love rather than anger.

Become a good listener not only of words, but be a discerner of the deeper issues of the heart. Listen to find out what is really happening in the moment. Sometimes the words a person speaks is just camouflage for what they are feeling in the moment. Listen to the needs of others not just your own.

3. Learn

Part of walking with God is being a life-long learner of His ways. If we form a habit of regularly becoming irritable and angry even at the smallest issues with our families, we need to seek to learn a different way. We won’t learn if we continue to make excuses that “I’m a redhead and redheads get angry.” Rather, when we admit that we are wrong, confess our sins to another, we are on the path of learning a new way.

As a young mom when I was learning how to replace my anger with God’s love I would sit myself in time out. The girls were even cute enough to “pray for mommy.” I also began to talk about my anger as sin and to confess it openly to my husband, often in front of the children. I wanted them to know that it was not okay for me to respond in anger. Bringing my own anger into the light really helped me to get free.

4. Love

A mother’s love is unconditional. A mother’s love should not be based on whether or not your child followed all the rules. A mother’s love, like God’s love, sees the best in a child. Calls out the potential rather than criticizes their lack. A mother is able to draw out and encourage. A mother’s love is only able to heal the bruises and bumps of the world if it is completely anchored in God’s love.

Nothing is impossible for a mom who holds the world of her newborn baby in her hands. Love pushes over every wall of rejection and every fortress of rebellion.  Love conquers all.

As you laugh, listen, learn and love you will grow closer to God as you grow closer to your family. The anger of the moment will evaporate when you concentrate on walking in God’s fruit of love.


4 Things Every Mom Needs by Sue Detweiler

Every Mom Needs Grace

Let’s set the record strait. Every mom since Eve has sinned against her sons and daughters. Even Mary the mother of Jesus lost it when she didn’t know where Jesus was (Luke 2:41-50). She is the only mother who ever had a perfect son and she was still anxious about him. Every mom has issues.

Every mom needs a safe place .

Every mom needs a safe place to talk about the real issues she is facing without feeling like as soon as she opens up and shares that she will be judged as a “bad mom.” We need others to come along side us and cheer us on as moms even when we feel like we aren’t going to make it.

Every mom needs encouragement.

You need to know that the meaning of your life is not measured by the sum total of the mundane moments and monotonous tasks of motherhood. You need to know not only that what you are doing has a purpose, but you need a fresh experience of God’s presence on your ordinary hectic days.

Every mom needs a friend.

We all need friends. Not the kind of friends that have it all together in their picture perfect homes with their fashion ready model children. No, you need friends who will be honest with their own struggles so that you can cheer each other on to cross the finish line of being faithful to God with your call.

My daughter came to me in tears one night. She had been home-schooled through the eighth grade and now she was going into high school and trying out for the soccer team. “Mom, we have to run the mile tomorrow. It’s my last chance to make the team.”

“What do you want me to do? Do you want me to come to practice? She nodded her head as she wiped her tears.

The next day I showed up beside the track and smiled at my daughter as she prepared to run. As she came around the track for her final lap, I listened to the coach calling out the time, and I knew she wasn’t going to make it. What was I going to do?

I dropped my purse and sprinted across the center of the football field to the other side of the track where my daughter was making slow progress. I put my hand on her back and said, “YOU CAN DO IT!” Immediately, she picked up the pace and ran to the finish line with fresh energy. Everyone cheered, and she made the team!

That is what I want to do for you in this blog. I want to be a friend that lays down her life like a bridge so you can sense God’s encouragement. I want you to feel the hand of God Himself on your back, running alongside you, saying, “You can do this! You can be the best mom in the world for your child, with My help.”

If you are tired of being alone, let’s walk down this freedom path together. If you have ever wondered if you can ever really change, if you have wondered if you could ever overcome the issues that you face, if you have wondered if you were all alone, if you have ever wondered if the fruit of God’s Spirit could really change you, then you will find healing and hope from your sisters.

Join the Journey

Welcome to a life-giving journey where it is safe for you to be honest, transparent, and real about the areas in your own life that are holding you back from abundant fruit in your life and the life of your family. Let us traverse with the expectancy that God still works in the imperfect details of our lives. Let Him touch the hidden places of your heart and help you discover the joy of walking with Him.

Go ahead and believe that He can take your worst and replace it with His best.


3 Ways to Celebrate Spring!

It’s Spring! It’s time to celebrate spring and the uniqueness of God’s creation. So take a moment right now and brush off any winter blues and fully embrace the new season ahead of you.

You are a masterpiece

Here are 3 ways to enjoy Spring:

1. Kick off your shoes and walk in the grass

For too long your feet have been constrained by shoe leather. Put on your sandals or go barefoot. If you are a woman pull out your nail polish and enter into a time of year when your feet become a fashion accessory. If you are a man, just enjoy the freedom that Spring brings to explore the new path ahead of you without being constrained.

3 Ways to Walk in Love

The simple beauty of a couple that has been married for 50 years captivates my attention. Their wrinkled faces look like one because they have spent years walking in love. To walk in love is a profound mystery. Remember these 3 things and your love life will improve:


1. Esteem one another

To esteem another is to admire, appreciate, cherish, honor, respect, and treasure another human being. It is the opposite of disliking, disregarding, disrespecting, insulting, or mocking. To esteem someone is to see them through the lenses of how God has made them to be. When another person senses that you honestly value them and enjoy being with them, it will draw out the best of who they are. Your relationship together will be positive and hopeful.

3 Ways to Have Confident Faith

Confident faith moves mountains so that it can see the future. Each one of us can walk in a confidence that is God-given. There are 3 ways you can walk into the New Year boldly.

1. Confident Faith is anchored on God’s Word.

Faith is the confidence that what we hope for will actually happen; it gives us assurance about things we cannot see (Hebrews 11:1 NLT).

Faith is really important to God. In fact, it is impossible to please God without faith (Hebrews 11:6).  God’s Word is eternally true.  If you and I are students of God’s word, we will find it relevant for our daily lives. If you anchor your faith to the Word of God, His promises will come to pass. His Word does not disappoint.

2. Confident Faith is established by God’s Will

On a daily basis, we have the opportunity to listen to the specific will that God has for our daily lives. The Holy Spirit will lead each believer that seeks to know God’s will.  If you truly seek, you will find. You are able to walk not only in God’s overall plan for your life, but also the specific daily walk with Him.

3. Confident Faith is committed to God’s Way

It is not enough to know God’s Word and His will, you also have to be committed to walking God’s word out HIS WAY!  God’s ways follow the spirit behind His commandments. His way will marry both the truth of God’s word and will with His way of compassion and mercy.  You will know it’s God’s way when you sense the atmosphere of love and see the signposts of His fruit.

I would love to hear from you… What things steal confident faith from you? Fear? Doubt? Unknowns?