5 Ways to Grow Spiritually with Your Spouse

Marriage is an adventure. Each of us brings habits, expectations, and imperfections into the relationship. None of us gets it right all the time—and that’s okay. Growing spiritually with your spouse isn’t about perfection. Instead, it’s about walking the journey together with grace, faith, and joy.

1. Go on a Wild Adventure Together

Shared experiences strengthen connection. Plan a simple treasure hunt, take a spontaneous drive, or create a surprise date night. One evening, an event we planned to attend was canceled. I already had childcare lined up, so I asked God to help me get creative. While Wayne dropped off the kids, I prepared a jacuzzi bath and set up an indoor treasure hunt. That small surprise brought so much joy. Little moments like these draw your hearts closer and create memories that strengthen your marriage.

2. Join a Small Group That Helps You Grow

Spiritual growth thrives in community. When you grow closer to God, you naturally grow closer to each other. One of the things that first drew me to Wayne was his love for God. Being in a small group keeps your faith active and your hearts aligned. It also surrounds you with couples who encourage, challenge, and support your marriage.

3. Make Space for Sex and Intimacy

Healthy intimacy strengthens every part of marriage—emotional, spiritual, and physical. Sex brings connection, unity, and healing. Sometimes, after a disagreement, I sense the Holy Spirit nudging me to initiate intimacy. When I follow that prompting, tension breaks and unity returns. Physical closeness can soften hearts and open the door to deeper spiritual connection.

4. Have a Daily Spiritual Check-In

Create a simple rhythm of spiritual connection. Ask each other: How are you? How can I pray for you? These short check-ins deepen emotional intimacy and keep you spiritually aligned. Even a quick text can strengthen unity throughout the day. It’s a daily reminder that you’re on the same team and committed to each other’s growth.

5. Mentor a Younger Couple Together

Pouring into others strengthens your own marriage. From early in our relationship, Wayne and I mentored younger couples and helped them prepare for marriage. When you encourage others to be patient, kind, and forgiving, you remind yourselves to live the same way. Serving together also unites your hearts around a shared purpose.

Growing spiritually with your spouse is a lifelong journey. As you pursue God together, you will find more joy, unity, intimacy, and strength—one step at a time.