Messy Marriage – Sue Detweiler #LifeGivingLinkup

Messy Marriage

Messy Marriage

We live in an instragram world that wants to portray us as living lives of flawless perfection.

I was touched by the honest reflection of Darlene Schacht as she shares her heart and brokenness in this video:

Painful Places

I don’t know the types of painful places that you have walked through, but I do know that you weren’t alone.

Darlene in her video mentioned key words from this Scripture

“Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly

above all that we ask or think,

according to the power that works in us…” Ephesians 3:20

In the midst of your biggest trial, if you surrender all to God He will do exceedingly abundantly more than you can imagine. That does not mean that you will get everything you want. It means that God is bigger than the situation you are in.
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Jesus Steps Into Messy Marriages

When Jesus was faced with the woman who was caught in the very act of adultery, He was both just and grace-giving. In His love for her, He didn’t condone her sin. However, His grace-filled-way made it possible for her to stand up with all of her accusers fleeing. Neither did Jesus condemn her. His grace made it possible for her to gain a fresh start.

Marriages are messy because the two people involved in the marriage are both imperfect sinners.

Does that mean that every marriage is repaired? No. The miracle of God’s grace is bigger. He goes deeper. He goes to the heart. He repairs the heart of every sinner that comes to Him. He doesn’t dish out cheap grace, but he sacrificially gives costly grace.

When Life Is Messy…

How is Jesus leading you to respond? Is he calling you to humble yourself and ask for forgiveness? Is He calling you to give mercy, grace, and truth to someone who has fallen? Whatever He is calling you to, His grace is sufficient. In fact, His power is perfected in weakness.

And He said to me,

“My grace is sufficient for you,

for My strength is made perfect in weakness.”

2 Corinthians 12:9 NKJV

Today, be willing to wade into the mess of life. It’s out of our messes that He brings His message.

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Author, Speaker, and Pastor

SUE DETWEILER is a mother of six, author, speaker, radio host, and pastor with over 25 years of experience in leadership, ministry and education. Sue and her husband Wayne have recently relocated to the North Dallas Texas area to plant and pastor Life Bridge Church.

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  • Darlene Schacht

    Sue, thank you so much for sharing this. Thank you for your encouragement, and thank you so much for your grace.

    • Darlene, I really appreciate how real and open you were with your story…. We can present ourselves as “experts” but you and I know there is only really ONE expert on marriage — and he never married. It’s truly a level place at the foot of the cross. Thanks for your message and mission.

  • Sue, Thank you for sharing this. I am praying for a friend’s marriage right now and this gave me more to consider before the Lord and possible share with her. I appreciate what you are doing over here as you encourage others to seek life and truth.

    • Thanks Christi. Yes, marriages are messy. Early in ministry I gave marriage counsel with a lot of legalism. As I have walked with God and seen his miraculous transformation on both sides of the matter… I have seen God restore marriages when both the husband and wife want to work on it… but I have also seen the restorative power of God minister to individuals when the marriage comes to an end. God is BIG enough to wade into the issues and be with each one in need.

  • Inspired Life

    Sue,
    Thank you for the encouragement today. I am tired and weak from bearing the weight of my armor but stand on his word that in my weakness His power is being perfected.

    • Amen sister! Get an “Aaron and Hur” to hold up your arms in prayer today. 🙂

  • Sue, I love how you ended this post: “Today, be willing to wade into the mess of life. It’s out of our messes that He brings His message.” Amen!

    • That’s good! I think I’ll tweet that 🙂 … Now to live it.

  • Sue, you are always so encouraging! Grateful to visit with you today! Infinite blessings to you, Love! 🙂

    • Thanks Tai! You are a faith-filed, faith-full woman. Happy Sunday.

  • Rebecca Diemer-Mclellan

    Messy anything is hard but with Jesus all our messes can become new !!! Visiting from Me, Coffee, and Jesus.

  • Yes… Jesus takes our mess and turns it into our message! Thanks for visiting