Empty Arms (Link up)

Do You Know Someone with Empty Arms?

“‘I’m not picking up a heartbeat, Pam. There doesn’t appear to be any fetal movement. I think the baby is dead.’ In disbelieve my emotions began to run wild and unchecked….” Hear Pam Vredevelt‘s heart in this video:

Overcoming Pain and Loss

The emotional aftermath of losing a pregnancy or an infant is experienced by so many. Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day is observed annually on October 15 in the United States, Canada, United Kingdom, Australian States of Western Australia, New South Wales and in Italy.

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Empty Arms


Empty Arms Journal

Empty Arms Journal

The Empty Arms Journal is a 21-Day interactive experience with God. A step-by-step guide based on the timeless wisdom of Scripture and decades of brain science.

A five-step process that empowers you to:

  • Embrace your loss in the light of God’s love
  • Let go of preoccupations that block transformation and fulfillment
  • Experience moments of relief from blinding pain
  • Keep moving forward without derailing or getting stuck in grief.
  • Find meaning and purpose on the way towards a brighter ‘new normal’

Tears are Healing…

If you or someone you know has empty arms, reach out to them with love and understanding. Their pain needs to be expressed to find healing and hope. Get Pam Vredevelt’s book and journal as a resource for anyone experiencing pregnancy or infant loss.

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Childlike Faith (Link up)

Do you have childlike faith for what you need?

One year our daughter Angela longed to take ballet so together we prayed for ballet slippers. The next week we just happened to find ballet slippers in her exact size at a garage sale. You could see faith in her little eyes. Then God put it on her grandma’s heart to pay for dance lessons.  Today when I see my adult daughters dancing, and teaching others to dance,  I am reminded to trust God and watch Him provide through childlike faith.

 “And calling to him a child, he put him in the midst of them and said, “Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.” (Matthew 18:2-4 ESV)

Happy Mother’s Day!


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Every mom I know wants to be the best mom in the world for her child, but sometimes she feels like the worst. Get you copy of 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom for your Mother’s Day Gift or for a friend. Click here to get you book.   In June we will have an online book-study for mom’s… GET YOUR COPY NOW!

Encourage Your Child’s Faith

QUALITY GOODSOne of the best ways to encourage our children as they have their childlike faith is to pray for them.  Grab our Top 10 List for Praying for Your Family.

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Be Encouraged Every Day!

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Every Mom is Chosen

Every Mom is Chosen

Every mom that I know wants to be the best mom in the world for her child, but sometimes she feels like the worst. Every mom needs a safe place to talk about the real issues she is facing without feeling like she will be judged as a “bad mom.” We need others to come alongside us and cheer us on as moms even when we feel like our parenting skills are lacking and we aren’t going to make it through another Cheerio-filled day.

Every Mom is Chosen

I want to introduce a new author Jen Forsthoff who has just written Chosen for Charlie: When God Gifts You with a Special Needs Child which is being published by Life Bridge Press just in time for Mother’s Day. It’s a very vulnerable thing to publish your first book and I want to invite you to read Jen’s post and leave her comments of encouragement as she inspires you with her message.

chosen for charlieChosen for Charlie

by Jen Forsthoff

It was love at first sight. After thirty-eight weeks, I finally held my firstborn. My beautiful Charlotte Joy. “Charlie,” as we would call her, lay on my chest and wriggled under the bright hospital room light. Not knowing how to comfort her, I held her the best I could. Her sweet cry was music to my ears; to finally hear her voice and see her face was more than I could bear. Though nurses buzzed about the room, cleaning and prepping for Charlie’s first bath and such things, for those initial moments, the world seemed to shrink to just the three of us.

My husband and I stared at her blinking blue eyes, the tuft of strawberry blonde hair atop her head, her tiny shriveled hands, her precious little body. “We’ve been waiting for you,” I cried. I couldn’t look away from her precious face. “Momma loves you so much.”

As new parents, we knew we had much to learn. But with soring hopes of a bright future, we felt sure that, together, we could conquer whatever might come our way.

Just a few days later we received the phone call that confirmed the doctors’ suspicions: Charlie had Trisomy 21. This genetic abnormality, commonly referred to as Down Syndrome, was something we never imagined for our family. We knew, of course, that parenting would be a challenge. But parenting a special-needs child, who could ever be prepared for that?

That once conquering spirit that welled up inside those first few moments quickly turned. I was soon felt as though I was being conquered- with fears, sadness, unanswered prayers for my baby girl. I was devastated. I ached all over. This feeling of pain and heaviness was never one I imagined with the birth of a child.  This is not how a new mother should feel- while friends celebrated the birth of their healthy babies, I was heart-broken. Feeling conflicted within; brokenness was replaced with guilt that I couldn’t celebrate the birth of my baby girl.

Perhaps you have found yourself in a similar situation- receiving difficult news about your child, a family member, a dear friend, or even yourself. Our reactions in those moments can vary, tremendously. We can feel anger, bitterness, deep sadness, pain, even nothing at all. I don’t think there is any right or wrong way to feel in those moments. But I think that what we do in those moments is absolutely defining of what will come next.

Our pain can cause us to push away or pull in close. One yields even more hurt, while the other brings healing. Rather than pushing away, I want to pull in towards my Heavenly Father. And If I do, I will be given beauty for my ashes, joy for my mourning, a spirit of praise for my heaviness- I will be transformed and renewed in His presence (Isaiah 61: 3). As I pull in close, that which seems to be conquering me, will not overcome me. God won’t let it.

If you are like me, your first response is not always to pull in close to God. But I can tell you that amidst my grief, God graciously pulled me close. He took my ashes, my mourning, and my heaviness in exchange for a beautiful perspective on life, an unexplainable joy, and a heart that is full of praise and thanksgiving.

So let me encourage you today, pull in close to God. Give him your heart, your hurt, your heaviness and exchange them for healing from your Heavenly Father.

Click the picture below to download chapter 1 of Chosen for Charlie by Jen Forsthoff. 

How to Rock Your Marriage in 2016

Rock Your Marriage in 2016

I don’t know about you, but I don’t want our marriage to be dry, old, and boring. I want our marriage to rock-and-roll with health, vigor and vitality. I want our marriage to be adventurous and fun. I want our marriage to have the sizzle of great sex and the passion of being fully alive, and the comfort and closeness of being at home with my best friend.

Life-Giving Marriage

It’s Time to Do a Marriage-Check up

Is your marriage the strongest it’s ever been?  Or has your marriage become a bit flabby and out of shape? Are you communicating clearly with love and respect, or is there an undercurrent of grumbling and complaining?

Are you chasing each other around the bedroom with love, laughter and passion flowing freely, or does there seem to be something needed to spice up your love life. Take time to focus on the 9 traits of a life-giving marriage that will help you strengthen and deepen your marriage.

Week 1 – 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Marriage Study Introduction

Today’s the day! We’re kicking off our online study of 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Marriage.  If you haven’t signed up already, you can do that here.

Kim Stewart, and along with Jana Kennedy-Spicer, will be hosting Sue’s study over the next 5 weeks. We’ll be here on the blog on Mondays and Wednesdays. In addition, we’ll be facilitating daily discussion and a Live Weekly Chat in our private study Facebook group on Thursday evenings at 9:00 p.m. CST. You can head over to the Facebook group right now and see my welcome video (You need to sign up first – you can do that here).

This week, we are reading the Introduction and Chapter 1.

Let these opening words encourage you:

God is with you. With His help, you can improve your relationship with your spouse by being transformed into the person God created you to be. You are not alone in your desire to trade a boring or painful marriage into one that is full of joy, passion, and love; God wants all that and more for your relationship!

If your relationship is good, honing the nine traits of a life-giving marriage can make it even better. And if it’s not, please know that, with God, there is hope for a happier life together, when you develop the traits that reflect His likeness and character.”

Transform your marriage with #MarriageRocks by Sue Detweiler. Join us for the FREE online study at http://suedetweiler.com/bookstudy.

We’d love for you to journal along in our study. If you signed up, you will receive a free download today in email that you can use. You will also receive an invite to join us Thursday night in our private Facebook group to chat LIVE about this week’s study.

Let’s discuss the Introduction of #MarriageRocks:

  1. Here are the 9 Life-Giving Traits to live out in our marriages: Acceptance. Friendship. Safety. Honesty. Intimacy. Passion. Endurance. Restoration. Expectancy. Which one(s) do you most want to focus on?
  1. Let’s invite Jesus into the intimate issues of our hearts and marriages by personalizing God’s Word in John 15:4-5:

Remain in me, __________ and I will remain in you. For a branch cannot produce fruit if it is severed from the vine, and you, __________, cannot be fruitful unless you remain in me. “Yes, I am the vine; you __________ are the branches. Those who remain in me, and I in them, will produce much fruit. For apart from me you, __________ can do nothing. (NLT)

  1. In the Introduction, I talked about meeting my husband, Wayne. What’s one word you would use to describe the “zing of attraction” when you first met your spouse?

We’ll see you back here on Wednesday to discuss Chapter 1. Have a great day!

Invite Your Friends:

There’s still time to also invite your friends to join you for this Study:

Join the FREE online #MarriageRocks study: http://suedetweiler.com/bookstudy

Unexpected Kindness #LifeGivingLinkup

Unexpected Kindness

Unexpected Kindness

This morning I nagged at my husband about the laundry. I really had nothing to complain about, he was doing the laundry, just not how I wanted it done.

Have you ever done this… demanded your own way…. Have you kept record of wrong? Have you become impatient for someone to live up to your standards?

When I act like this, I’m being selfish and self-centered. Pettiness drains our energy and strains our love. True kindness is unselfish. Read this description with is from my first book 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom.

Unexpected Kindness

Simple Acts of Kindness

So think about it. Is there anyone that you need to say, “I’m sorry” to? Making things right will clear the air. Make your home a place where people want to come back to. Kindness is a quality that warms the heart and hearth.

The fruit of kindness is a remarkable force of persuasion in our homes. Kindness is the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. To be warmhearted, affectionate, and caring.

I hope you enjoyed these tweets. I would love to hear your comments on kindness being love in action.

9 Traits of a Life-Giving Marriage9 Traits of a Life-Giving Marriage I’m excited to share that I have completed the manuscript to 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Marriage which will be in bookstores beginning October 2. Click the button below and you can download the introduction and first chapter of the book for free.

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Dream Again! – Sue Detweiler – #LifeGivingLinkup

Dream again

Dream Again!

How do you deal with disappointment? We all have situations where we are disappointed. In this short video I share a time my daughter was disappointed when she was young. Watch this:

Hope that Doesn’t Disappoint

All of us, like Angela, go through times of being disappointed. Our perspective of what was going to happen was different from reality. We can make assumptions about God’s will in our lives and be deceived. The key to dreaming again, is to anchor our hope on God. God thinks differently than we do. His perspective is so much broader. His word says,

This doesn’t mean, of course, that we have only a hope of future joys—we can be full of joy here and now even in our trials and troubles. Taken in the right spirit these very things will give us patient endurance; this in turn will develop a mature character, and a character of this sort produces a steady hope, a hope that will never disappoint us. Already we have some experience of the love of God flooding through our hearts by the Holy Spirit given to us. Romans 5:3-5 JB Phillips

When Things Turn Out Differently Than We Imagine

During the Memorial Day Weekend, I was captivated by the story of Kyle Carpenter who has won the medal of honor for fighting in Afghanistan. He was advancing against the enemy when a full grenade exploded underneath him. As he knew he was dying, he made peace with God through prayer. He woke up 6 weeks later in a hospital. This song shows pictures of his story and calls all of us to Stand when we are faced with adversity. Watch this short video in honor of Memorial Day weekend and all the soldiers who are fighting for our freedom.

The type of battle that Kyle Carpenter fought after having a grenade explode underneath him, is a type of battle that we face when we are disappointed. We have to fight to move forward after difficult things happen. The enemy of our hearts wants us to wallow in disappointment and give up. God, however, calls us to stand up and fight.

Dream Again

 For my daughter Angela, the set-back of not having a part in the play was a set-up for God developing humility in her character so that she could be used as a dance leader for others.

So what is it for you? Life may be different than you imagined.


Happy Mothers Day #LifeGivingLinkup

Happy Mother's Day

Happy Mothers Day

I can still see my mom in her study when I was growing up. She had her Bible, her journal and her prayer list. I knew that I could share anything with her and she would pray for me. She left a legacy of prayer for me.

This video may make you cry, but I wanted to share it with you and wish you a Happy Mother’s Day.

God Hears the Prayers of Praying Mother’s

I believe I am who I am today, because someone I loved called out my name in prayer. God hears the prayers of praying mother’s. Before I was even born, my mom claimed this Scripture for me.

The Lord gave me this message:

 “I knew you before I formed you in your mother’s womb.
    Before you were born I set you apart
    and appointed you as my prophet to the nations.”

Jeremiah 1:4-5

Before I was born, my mom prayed that I would live a life of full-time ministry. Now, as I have been in ministry all of my adult life, she still prays for me every single day. I never will forget listening to my mom praying with passion and fire. She spends her life leaving a legacy of faith.

I believe I am who I am today because my mom was crying out to Jesus for me.

You can say “Happy Mother’s Day” to those who have impacted your life. Say “thanks” to the godly moms who have cared for you, believed in you, and sacrificed for you.

This week when we celebrate moms, I want to make a special “Happy Mother’s Day” gift for you!  On Friday through Sunday (May 8-10) you are able to order online 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom for only $.99.  You will be able to bless 9 moms you know for just $9. On Friday May 8th through Sunday May 10 click here.

Of course, if you would rather have a paper back book it’s not too late to have it shipped directly to your mom by ordering here:

What Are Your Mother’s Day Stories?

I’m sure you have things you would like to say about the mom’s in your life that have impacted you. Leave your comments below to give tribute. You can also add your blog link to celebrate the mom’s in your life.