Why I wrote This Book

WHY i wrote this book

Why I wrote this book: I remember the moment that 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom hit number 1 on Amazon’s hot new releases on Mother’s Day Weekend. I was so surprised, amazed and grateful. (The Kindle Version is on Sale for Mother’s Day Weekend for only 99 cents! Woo! Hoo! What a sale.)

In between my 2 daughters’ weddings, I was just thankful to launch the book… Enjoy reading this article… xoxox

Why I Wrote This Book

Destiny requires bold leaps of faith. I have been asked why I wrote 9 Traits of a Life-Giving MomI didn’t go through the months of writing this book with tears streaming down my face because I am a perfect mom. There are no perfect moms. There are no perfect families.

Every mom that I know wants to be the best mom in the world for her child. But sometimes she feels like the worst. God has given imperfect women the awesome opportunity to nurture the lives of other human beings. But sometimes we feel overwhelmed. Often we fall short.

why i wrote this bookI wrote 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom because I had to. I had this burden to help moms be real in their brokenness.  I wanted to create a safe place for moms of all ages to find healing and wholeness. I wanted to help mom’s embrace their God-given calling to be a Life-Giving Mom by connecting to The Ultimate Life-Giver – GOD!

My friend Teasi Cannon wrote this in her review of 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom

“One of the most encouraging things to my heart is simply knowing I’m not alone…not alone in my pain, not alone in my failures, and not alone in my journey.”

Enjoy Watching this Book Trailer

The Difficult Yet Life-Giving Journey

I have had the heart to write this book for 20 years. Around 7 years ago, after walking, talking and praying with my friend Pam Vredevelt I realized that writing for me was a God-given calling and a moral imperative. I didn’t want to face God at the end and hear Him say “Well, done servant…. But why didn’t you write the books that I called you to write…?”

I know God’s grace covers not only our mistakes but the things we leave undone. I also know His call. I had an undeniable burden to help others through writing books.

Finally in 2012, I took a bold step of faith. My husband and I had been at one church for 17 years. For most of those years we were associate pastors. In July, 2012 I officially stepped off of the pastoral team that I dearly loved. I laid down a ministry assignment where I had been effectively used by God.

I knew that it was God calling me… At the time, I didn’t know that He would later call us to relocate out of Nashville where we had served the city in ministry for 28 years. I didn’t know that He would call us to plant a church from SCRATCH in Texas! I didn’t know that He would call us to a why i wrote this bookcity where we didn’t know anyone. I didn’t know He would call us to leave our beautiful adult daughters in Tennessee, and plow the tough ground of beginning a new church.

All I knew at the time, was that He had called me to write.

I share these details with tears streaming down my face, because for me… writing this book has come at a great cost.

I have labored in prayer… I have labored in time… I have labored in study… I have labored in transparency… I have labored in repentance… I have laid it all on the line because I knew that God was calling.

So I responded, “Here am I. Send Me.” (Isaiah 6:8).

Why I wrote This Book:

1. To Obey God

I feel God’s pleasure as I have made room in my life. Why I wrote this book: to obey God. Now I hear Him saying, “Write a book every year.” So, I have already begun writing my next book. The words are flowing out of me. I can hardly wait to get it to readers. There is a whole series of “9 Traits” books that are being birthed in my belly right now. Obeying God releases life destiny.

2. To Be Transformed

I am no longer the same woman. I have been changed and transformed through the writing process. It has given me a context to look back, search God’s Word, pray, and look forward.  I have gone through deep layers of repentance in my own life and heart. I have found God’s GRACE in a brand new life-giving, life-restoring way. His GRACE empowers me to live out my life-destiny with strength, wisdom, power, clarity and boldness.

3. To Help Moms

Why I wrote this book: To Help MOMS! I love moms. I love trendy moms. I love soccer moms. I love stay-at-home moms. I love working-moms. I love single-moms. I love moms-of-special-needs-children. I love moms.

9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom has built a platform for me to come along side moms in the journey to be Life-Giving to their children.

My friend Amy Carroll  writes about 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom in this way:

“For a woman who struggles against my own perfectionism, Sue’s book comes as a breath of fresh air. It allows me to openly confess my own flaws while embracing the God-given power to overcome them. Her statement, “Go ahead and believe that He can take your worst and replace it with His best,” makes me exhale with hope…”

Share 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom with Others

In bookstores across the United States, 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom has arrived. Go to your bookstore. Thank them for carrying it. Buy a copy and give it to a friend (even if that friend is you).

Or if you like the quick and easy way of getting your book NOW. You can order it here.

What is God Calling You To Do?

Destiny requires bold leaps of faith. Are you willing to make the changes in your life that are necessary in order to obey God’s call? What life-destiny is He call you to boldly embrace? What area of brokenness is he transforming in your life? What “test” are you going through that will become your “testimony.”  I would love to hear from you. Please take time to write a comment. I read and respond to all of them.

Be encouraged in your Life-Giving Journey Today! Get a Copy of 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom Today!



Why I wrote this book


Sue Detweiler is a successful coach, best-selling author, international speaker AND mother of 6!!! With over 25 years of experience in leadership, ministry and education. When 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom was launched it hit #1 on Amazon’s Hot New Releases for Christian Women’s Issues. Sue loves to connect on her blog as well as on twitter and facebook.




Amazing Love

Amazing Love

Jesus was known for hanging around those with a poor reputation. At one point the Pharisees criticized him for hanging out with “scum.” Jesus response put them in their place. Jesus said, “Healthy people don’t need a doctor—sick people do” (Matthew 9:12 NLT).

Jesus always meets us in with the perfect balance of mercy and truth. His amazing love goes heals the deepest wounds. His powerful truth sets us free.

A town harlot known for her immorality, trusted Jesus enough to bring her most valuable possession, herself. She knelt down and washed Jesus feet with her tears, drying them with her own hair. Then she tenderly held his feet that would soon be nailed to the cross for her sins, and she burst open her alabaster flask anointing him with fragrant, costly perfume (Luke 7:36-50).

Jesus said to the woman with the Alabaster Flask: “Your faith has saved you; go enter into peace in freedom from all the distresses that are experienced as the result of sin.” (Luke 7:50 AMP).

All of us have experienced stress in our lives as a result of our sin. All of us have been wounded. The ground 09-08-14-Foot-of-Crossis level at the foot of the cross where all of us need Jesus to forgive our sins, and heal our brokenness.

The woman  with the Alabaster Flask wasn’t even invited to the meal that Simon the Pharisee was holding. Simon was so disgusted by this act that he reacted with his own pharisaical pride. Judging both the woman and Jesus, Simon saw himself as superior to both.

When Jesus came to his home, he didn’t wash his feet even though that was the custom of the day. He did not greet Jesus with a kiss, nor honor him in any way. Both Simon and the woman encountered Jesus’ amazing love that day. Simon left his encounter with Jesus, hardened. The woman left her encounter with Jesus, healed.

The Ground is Level at the Foot of the Cross

Whether our brokenness is known by all, or hidden under the hardness of a heart, we all need Jesus to replace our brokenness with His Amazing Love.


Inspirational Quotes – Love Never Fails

Day 4

Inspirational Quotes

Inspirational Quotes

A Life-Giving Mom rejoices in truth.

She never gives up. 
She never loses faith.

She is always full of hope.

She endures through every circumstance.

Her love never fails when it is anchored in

the Life-Giving, Love-Extending Power of God.

Learning Endurance

With the help of God and by the grace of God, you are able to be the best mom in the world for your children. As your children grow and develop, you have the opportunity to grow and develop as a parent. You are able to endure the tough times knowing that it is HIS love that NEVER fails.


Love never gives up, never loses faith, 

God’s love is hopeful, and 

endures through every circumstance.

Inspirational Quotes on Love that Never Fails

“When you are tempted to give up,

your breakthrough is probably just around the corner.” 
― Joyce Meyer

Jesus said,

“So now I am giving you a new commandment:

Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should

love each other. Your love for one another 

will prove to the world that you are my disciples.”

John 13:34-35 NLT

Today’s Prayer 

Let my life be an offering to You.

Let the daily sacrifice that I make as a mom

be a sweet-smelling aroma to You.

When I am angry, help me not to sin.

Let my lips speak words that build up my children.

Holy Spirit, be present with me all through the day.

In Jesus name I pray, Amen.

Sue Detweiler

Sue Detweiler

Sue Detweiler is a mother of six, author, speaker, and radio host with over 25 years of experience in leadership, ministry, and education. Sue’s first book 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom is available here. 


Inspiring Women Interview with Susan Heid

Inspiring Women – “The Confident Mom”

All moms have struggled at times with their own lack of confidence. You may have found yourself hesitant or unsure when faced with the unknowns of motherhood. Susan Heid has built an online community of moms who feel safe to be real with each other.

The Confident Mom

I met Susan Heid online when she contacted me about using 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom as a book study to encourage moms this summer. Listen to the Inspiring Women Show. 

Check Out Inspiring Women with Sue Detweiler on BlogTalkRadio

9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom Online Book & Bible Study

From the first moment that I began to write 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom, I have had a heart to help moms overcome unresolved issues to become become better moms. I want to help moms find peace with imperfections so that we can all learn from our mistakes.

Online Book & Bible Study

9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom Study

Susan Heid and TheConfidentMom.com will be hosting an 11 week Book & Bible Study. I will be providing a short video encouragement and an audio resource in addition to the book and study guide that is already available on Amazon.

You can connect with Susan’s Online Book & Bible Study here.  She has laid out everything you need to join her online course. Susan is an encourager. She will come along side you and help you in your journey be a Life-Giving Mom. She will help you gain more confidence as you put your trust in God. You can find Susan at TheConfidentMom.com.

If you would like to use 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom to lead your own moms group online, in your church or neighborhood – Your first step is to order your book. You can order the book and study guide below.  Beginning May 29, 2014. You can check back for additional online videos and resources for your own mom’s group. 

9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom is for MOMS of ALL ages.  It doesn’t matter the age of your children or the stage of your parenting – we all want to be the best mom for our child but so often we can feel like the worst. Is it Really Possible to heal the hidden places of our own hearts?  Yes, with God’s help!  9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom will help you find peace with your imperfections, learn from your mistakes, overcome negative patterns and enjoy your journey as a mom.

I would love to hear from you! Leave your comment below!







Inspiring Women Interview with Patrick & Angela Howell

Inspiring Women Interview:

As a result of their journey together and individually, Patrick and Angela Howell are the founders of the new heart-seeking series A LIFE WORTH HAVING combining the best personal development techniques, healing practices and fulfillment strategies into one, life-changing program, where they also reveal their secrets to experiencing rewarding relationships. It is truly a BLUEPRINT FOR PERSONAL FREEDOM. Patrick and Angela are happy to share what finally helped them break through and re-purpose their own individual lives, as well as strengthen their 20 yrs+ marriage, which survived divorce and five years apart.

Inspiring Women

Listen as Sue Detweiler interviews Patrick and Angela Howell:

Online Women Radio at Blog Talk Radio with Sue Detweiler on BlogTalkRadio


Patrick Howell is a speaker, author and life fulfillment coach and former undercover agent working drug enforcement. Patrick had epic success but then a tragic ending to his thirteen-year law enforcement career which pushed him into the corporate sales and management arena where he won countless sales and leadership awards.  In spite of tremendous financial success, the absence of joy and purpose ultimately sent his life spiraling out of control again.

Angela Howell is also a speaker, author and life fulfillment coach and 20+ year eating disorder survivor.After developing an eating disorder at age 13 that launched her into a life-threatening and often hopeless battle with anorexia/bulimia by her early twenties, Angela began her own journey of healing and self-development.  She enjoyed a successful sales career with a Fortune 500 company, where she earned multiple sales awards and top recognition, and yet Angela also continually felt like there was something missing.

If you would like to learn more about Patrick and Angela Howell click here.

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If you would like to learn more about the guest callers:

Michelle Moore 



Author/Speaker, Real Estate coach who has a WLAC Radio Show 

Two books, Selling Simplified and Abandonment to Forgiveness

Myra Goldick


Author/speaker/coach/radio show host: Nothing is Impossible and Dancing with Disabilities

Her book is Focused, Unstuck, and Back in Action.

Adrienne Lyons 

Founder of Scarlet Door Project 



Inspiring Women to Overcome! Sue Detweiler

Sue Detweiler

Inspiring Women

It may be a few days early to start celebrating Mother’s Day, but I was interviewed by Wayne Shepherd on FIRST PERSON. Listen here to the interview 

In our FIRST PERSON interview, I tell the story of being home alone with 5 week old Rachel when an arsonist set fire to the home next to us. While God spared our lives, he used this trial to transform us. I hope this message reaches mom’s who feel most stuck in their circumstances to find hope in God.

I first met Wayne Shepherd through the National Religious Broadcasters (NRB). If you haven’t listened to my radio program Healing Rain and you can listen online here. See if you can identify the announcer :)

Help another mom by sharing this program, but also by buying 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom as a gift for Mother’s Day!  You can buy it here.

This book will help you to

-Overcome unresolved issues to become a better mom
-Find peace with imperfections and learn from your mistakes
-Tap into God’s power to break negative patterns
-Joyfully become your best you!

Sue Detweiler

Sue Detweiler



Sue Detweiler is mother of 6, author, speaker and radio host wit over 25 years of experience in leadership, ministry and education.

Christian Parenting Is Founded on Hope

Christian Parenting is Founded on HOPE

Imagine the horror if you were Mary, the mother of Jesus, watching your son’s slow, painful death. You could barely stand by your son on that terrible never-ending day. Hearing the sound of the whip rip out chunks of your son’s flesh. Seeing the blood drip from His body as they mounted the cross on His shoulders. Smelling the scent of death in the sweat of your precious son as He carried the cross.

Christian Parenting is founded on Hope