Friendship is the Wind in Our Sails
Marriage thrives on friendship. The joy of sailing through life together. Yet most couples are not prepared for the reality that although 80% of the time you will have “smooth-sailing” — 20% of the time you will experience “rough seas.” Watch this short video.
Friendship brings life to our marriages. When friendship falters, the relationship is at risk. Maybe you are at a great place in your marriage and are experiencing the positive emotional connectedness of being one with your spouse. If so, great! Keep investing in your friendship.
Alternatively, you may be secretly crying into your pillow, feeling as if your needs are unmet. You could be withdrawing to your workplace and flirting with the secretary who admires your leader- ship. You could be wondering if it’s possible to regain the passion you once felt in your marriage.
Friendship is the wind in the sail of your marriage. Whatever the current state of your relationship, invest the time in strengthening your friendship. Make your marriage a rich, life-giving adventure.
Reinforcing the foundation of friendship can help you grow together, rather than apart, and keep your marriage stable and fun.
I remember a time when I wanted to change my husband (see chapter 2 of 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Marriage).Can you relate to that? Have you tried to change your spouse?
Last week, we learned about Acceptance. This week, remember, your spouse was created in the image of God. God fashioned and design your spouse with His purpose in mind. Since you do not have the power to change your spouse, you will need to learn to trust God and realize that it is not your role to act like the Holy Spirit in his/her life.
Now that we’ve relieved the pressure of needing to “fix” your spouse, let’s focus on the fun we can have in our marriages.
“Make time for friendship. Go out and have fun. Leave the kids with a sitter. Focus on your marriage. Focus on building your friendship, rather than proving your point.”
Week 2 – 9 Traits Marriage Study (Friendship)
Let’s discuss Chapter 2 of #MarriageRocks:
Read Chapter 2 of 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Marriage. Reflect and journal the following questions. If you signed up, you will receive a free download today in email that you can use.
- What were some of your favorite things to do when you were first forming a relationship with your spouse?
- Is there one “Horsemen” negative style of behavior that might be holding you back from building Friendship in your marriage (Criticism; Contempt; Defensiveness; or Stonewalling)?
- What are some ways you can commit to this week to restore Friendship in your marriage?
We’ll see you back here on Wednesday to discuss Chapter 3. Have a great day!
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Remembering that day sailing – made me want to get out on a boat together again — Do you have some fun things you like to do as a couple? I know we are in an empty nest season so life is so different for us — on one had we have more time — but on the other hand we are working longer hours than we were before… We really need to be purposeful to schedule the time.
We just celebrated our 16th anniversary this weekend and did a weekend of dates at home since our kids had obligations. We finished the weekend with a helicopter ride over the city at sunset! So much fun!
wow that sounds amazing Amanda!
I want to do that! How fun!
hello Sue, keep up the good work. I like your wind in the sail statement, in fact you have much of worth to say. Please let women/wives know how important it is to give, I know it takes two but there are many men like myself out there, middle age, where the wife just leaves emotionally then physically because they are tired and not getting what they need. Communication does not happen on a one way street, couples have to know and be honest with where they are in life. Love is not selfish and it perseveres.