Free to Be You (Link up)

Free to Be You

Every time you take a step forward out of obedience to God’s call on your life, the step itself is a shot of confidence. You are free to be you! No one is courageous in his own strength. True courage comes from God. There are times that you will still feel fear as you step out in faith.

Free to be you

Freedom from Perfectionism

In this Instagram world, it is easy to look at the families of friends and think they have it all together. Her life looks perfect, so it must be. This false picture-perfect-image is just an illusion.

All of us experience storms in our lives. I need to keep my eyes on Jesus so that my feet don’t sink into the waves of the storm (see John 6:15-21). In the midst of the storm you will be transformed. The things that used to frighten you no longer have power to manifest fear in your life.

Perfectionism is a blinding foe. You don’t realize you have been blind-sided until you come to the end of yourself. It will drive you to strive for excessively high performance goals. It may cause you to be highly critical. You will be driven to meet impossible standards, unable to please yourself and others. It squeezes the fun out of life and steals the joy out of relationships. Rather than being relaxed and at-home with who you are, you may constantly try to be someone else.

Replacing Perfectionism with Presence

Replacing the drive for perfectionism with the peace-filled presence of the Holy Spirit in your life will rejuvenate you. Learning to relax in God’s presence will free you from fault-finding.

“If you wait for perfect conditions,

you will never get anything done.” Ecclesiastes 11:4 LB

Perfectionism causes you to hesitate. If you place such high standards on yourself you will never move forward and obey God. Your internal dialogue could be something like this… I don’t know what to do. I’m afraid that I’m going to get it wrong. I need to just play it safe. If I can’t do it perfect, I won’t even try.

Perfectionism can cause your prayer life to have extreme standards. You may have nagging thoughts or unreal expectations… If I really knew how to pray, than all my problems will go away. I’m going to set my alarm for 4:00 and pray for 2 hours before work. Then when you sleep through your alarm and rush to work barely getting there on time, you blame yourself for not following through. Any virtue can become a vice when we try to accomplish it in our own strength.

You may be your own worst critic when you don’t accomplish your goals. The only way to truly overcome perfectionism is through God’s grace that sets you free. As human beings, we all fall short of God’s standard. That’s why we need a savior.

Are You Ready to Wave a White Flag

Are you ready to surrender your heart fully to God? As you let go of your futile desire to be perfect and embrace the only PERFECT ONE–Jesus, you will find fresh freedom to be you! You won’t be fear-filled and anxiously trying to impress. You will be fearless and content.

Five Promises for Every Day Life

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Be Encouraged (Linkup)

Be Encouraged

Have you ever found your head hanging down after being disappointed or struggling with a difficult problem? When I feel this way, I am encouraged by these words:

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But you, O Lord, are a shield around me;
    you are my glory, the one who holds my head high.
I cried out to the Lord,
    and he answered me from his holy mountain.

Psalm 3:3-4 NLT

He protects us and lifts up our heads. When we cry out to God, He answers each one of us. 

God is also our bridegroom who lifts the veil of shame off of our lives and calls us beautiful and chosen. His tender-love cleanses us by His word. He says to us:

“You’ll be a stunning crown in the palm of God’s hand,

    a jeweled gold cup held high in the hand of your God.

No more will anyone call you Rejected,

    and your country will no more be called Ruined….

Because God delights in you

    and your land will be like a wedding celebration…

And as a bridegroom is happy in his bride,

    so your God is happy with you.”

Isaiah 62:1-5 MSG

Whatever difficult thing you have struggle with in recent days, know that if God is for you, who can be against you! Turn to Him when you are going through difficult times, He will lift you up and encourage you.

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Crystal Clear Vision (Link Up)

Crystal Clear Vision

Do you find yourself hesitating or holding back?

 Knowing clearly who God is and who you are in Christ will clarify your vision.

The best way to find out if you’re walking with that clarity is to spend daily time in God’s word and in prayer. One of the results of this clarity will be joy as you walk in His Kingdom purposes for your life.

When a new and fresh idea comes into my mind and heart that I believe is from God, I write it down. Sometimes it comes quickly and I am writing it out as the ideas flow. Other times, I take time away to seek God for His vision. With Bible, journal and sometimes a lap top, I write things down so that they become clear.

When you write out your vision, others are able to run with it.

Write the vision
And make it plain on tablets,
That he may run who reads it.
For the vision is yet for an appointed time;
But at the end it will speak, and it will not lie.
Though it tarries, wait for it;
Because it will surely come,
It will not tarry.

Habakuk 2:2-4 NKJV


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Jesus Calls Us Deeper (Link Up)

Jesus Calls Us Deeper

God calls us to get in over our heads… Launching out into the deep requires you go deeper in your faith, hope, and trust in God.*

Launching Out into the Deep

Jesus called Peter to be his disciple on a rough day.  Peter and his companions had been out all night fishing and they caught nothing.  Tired, hungry, surrounded by a multitude of people, Peter tried to stretch out and clean his net so that they could go out fishing again that night. He had a lot of people depending on him as a business owner; he couldn’t afford another day without catching fish. The multitude was pressing Jesus and power was going out of Him so that everyone around was being healed (Luke 5:1-11).

Before Peter knew it, Jesus had stepped on his boat and charged him to put out a little from the land so that He could sit down and teach the crowd.  Peter didn’t mind. In fact, listening to Jesus teach made the tedious work of washing nets go faster.  He had heard about Jesus and he was curious to know if the message and the messenger was real.

When Jesus had finished speaking, he said to Simon, “Now go out where it is deeper, and let down your nets to catch some fish.”

“Master,” Simon replied, “we worked hard all last night and didn’t catch a thing. But if you say so, I’ll let the nets down again.”  And this time their nets were so full of fish they began to tear!  A shout for help brought their partners in the other boat, and soon both boats were filled with fish and on the verge of sinking.

When Simon Peter realized what had happened, he fell to his knees before Jesus and said, “Oh, Lord, please leave me—I’m such a sinful man.”  For he was awestruck by the number of fish they had caught, as were the others with him. Luke 5:4-9 NLT

 When was the last time you were awestruck?

We settle into our daily lives and expect the ordinary. We clean our nets or whatever tedious task we are charged with and we seldom launch out into the deep at the command of Jesus. We need to follow these 3 instructions Jesus gives us:

1. Launch Out Deeper

Jesus is always calling us to go out of our depth. He wants us to be over-our-heads and dependent on Him. It’s not enough to launch out into the deep when we are young (and foolish), we need to launch out into the deep when we are older and understand the sacrifice. Each new season we need to be stretching, growing, and launching into deeper places with Jesus.

2. Let Down Your Nets

Our faith requires action. To let down our nets means we need to take action and obey God. He calls us to be fishers-of-men. Our calling requires us to share our faith in word, action, and dead. We need to live our live in the open and always share the reason for our faith with others.

3. Expect Miraculous Multiplication

Part of hanging out with Jesus is learning to expect the miraculous. A miracle defies human logic and reasoning. The supernatural-world breaks into our every-day-ordinary-world. Living out the Jesus-Lifestyle requires us to expect multiplication (and not just addiction). He does it all without human striving. Life with Jesus means that we enter into a multiplication reality with the power of His Spirit.

I would love to hear from you…

… What is your story of launching out into the deep in this season?

… Are you letting down your nets?

… Are you expecting miraculous multiplication?

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5 Ways to Get Rid of Fear #FearlessFaith

Fear Puts God on Trial

When we are fearful or anxious we are declaring that we can’t fully trust in God to care about the details of our lives.

Fear, anxiety, intimidation are part of the family of the enemy. Satan’s schematic for your life is that you will be constantly stressed, uncertain, and hesitant about your daily lie. He snares you through your desire to please man more than God.

Sin starts when I partner with fear. It’s not a sin to feel anxiety, its when I embrace dread that it poisons the perspective of my mind.

If we don’t replace fear with faith, we will be led down the dangerous path of unbelief and disobedience. Unbelief accuses God at His very essence. It puts God on trial to prove Himself while denying the undeniable evidence all around.

To engage in prayer is to declare war on the demonic forces of intimidation that accuse God. These accusations can come as subtle thoughts against the power of God. Fear will manifest as insecurity, concern, despair, doubt dread, horror, panic, agitation, unease, fright, and terror.

If you are struggling with some sort of anxiety in your life, you can know without a doubt that worry has come from the enemy.

“For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity,

but of power, love, and self-discipline.” 2 Timothy 1:6

Many of us do not fulfill the call of God on our lives because we are shackled by timidity. Every time we try to move forward, the devil uses intimidation to try to stop us.

Doubt will make you want to stand still and hesitate. Anxiety accuses God for every difficult thing that you have experienced in your life. We let doubth have power over us when we try to self protect and not experience pain. The dread of lack, failure, rejection, or abandonment take hold in our lives if we haven’t thoroughly invited God in to help us overcome emotional pain and loss.

You and I need to learn to step out and obey God in spite of panic. Sometimes, you have to do what God says even when you feel afraid.

5 Ways to Get Rid of Your Fear

1. Get Rid of Fear with Faith

2. Get Rid of Fear with Trust

3. Get Rid of Fear with Truth

4. Get Rid of Fear with Boldness

5. Get Rid of Fear with Action

Fearless Faith

I wrote this ebook as a simple guide on how to walk in fearless faith. Click the picture to download your copy.

To have fearless faith does not mean that you don’t experience concern. It means that you face your anxieties and overcome them with faith.

I would love to hear comments about how faith has impacted your life. What new unknown territories are you walking into that require faith?

The Battle of the Sexes

The Battle of the Sexes in marriage

The Battle of the Sexes

The Battle of the sexes brings discord in our homes. God has made us to live in harmony rather than strife. The battle of the sexes is a disagreement or fight for power between a man and a woman. The enemy stages these attacks against us by whispering thoughts in our mind. These accusations if unchecked can cause our emotions to spiral downward until we are in are in a true battle. You may recognize his telltale warfare tactics. They often sound something like this:

“She ALWAYS does this…”

“He NEVER takes time to understand my needs…”

“I TOLD HIM what I needed, but he still did this…”

“She is SELFISH…”

“I’m NOT going to put up with this anymore…”

“She is never going to CHANGE…”

“If he is going to do this, then I am going to…”

Have you been in a battle of the sexes like this? If you are married, the answer may be– YES! The enemy hates marriages.

If you are in the middle of a battle, ask yourself this…

“Where did I allow the enemy to get a foothold in my mind and in my emotions?” I know that when I open the door by allowing the enemy access to my heart by dwelling on accusations I make my home vulnerable. As Christians we have the responsibility to close every door and window against satan’s attacks. We can guard our hearts and seek refuge in Jesus.

As I sought the Lord for insight on how I’d allowed the enemy access to my heart recently, He showed me a petty thing that my husband had done. He had sinned against me in a small way, but the dart had nonetheless wounded my heart. Jesus also showed me a deeper issue of recurring pain in my marriage. He led me to forgive my husband—completely. Then, like a skilled surgeon, He removed the enemy’s arrow out of my wounded heart. He flushed out the poison of hopelessness and renewed my heart with hope. He cut away the disappointment and filled the empty space with courage.

Week 5 – 9 Traits Marriage Study (Restoration)

Restoration—Understand this: Satan wants your divinely ordained marriage to fail. His battle tactics can cause injuries that, if left unattended, can certainly end in death. Restoration is a process of healing and building reinforcements to prevent future attacks. Jesus calls us to restoration in our relationships:

Finally, brothers and sisters, rejoice! Strive for full restoration, encourage one another, be of one mind, live in peace. And the God of love and peace will be with you. 2 Corinthians 13:11

Restoration repairs and rebuilds trust when it is compromised. Redemption is the divine exchange of our sin with God’s righteousness. Jesus is the only One who can pay off the debt that each spouse owes to the other.

Battle of the Sexes

Let’s discuss Chapter 8 of #MarriageRocks

Read Chapter 8 of 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Marriage. Reflect and journal the following questions. If you signed up, you will receive a free download today in email that you can use.

  1. Has your mind been filled with thoughts from the enemy’s spiritual warfare tactics like described in chapter 8?


  1. What situations has your marriage endured that the enemy intended for a trap?


  1. “God is for our marriage to be healthy and life-giving.”
 What truths in God’s Word can you pray this week for a life-giving marriage?

We will see you back here Wednesday to discuss chapter 9.

Here’s a beautiful printable that reminds us that we take our lead from Christ. Jesus restores peace in our homes. Click the picture to download your copy.

Honesty in Marriage needs to be Anchored by Self-control

Honesty in Marriage Requires Self-Control

You and I have the ammunition to blow up our marriage every day. Not only do you know your spouses weaknesses, you know what triggers their own vulnerabilities. You can either build up your spouse or you can tear them to shreds.

honesty in marriage

Honesty is key to every relationship. It’s important that you and I are transparent and real with our spouse. However, it is equally important for honesty in marriage to be anchored by self-control.

In your own relationship, when you or your spouse feels flooded by emotion, one of the best things you can do is say, “Let’s stop for now and talk about this later.” Simply being aware of the physiology of your body during an argument will help you maintain self- control with your words and actions.

Self-control is God’s work in our lives. It isn’t something we, as Christians, have to muster up in our own will. Self-control is a fruit that grows when we invite the Holy Spirit in to direct our lives and heed His instruction. If you think you have to do life all on your own, you may get discouraged. But when you and I realize that we have God within us to guide us in a godly response to conflict, we can listen for and lean into His strength. Prayer is an important part of leaning into God’s strength.”

Speaking of self-control, watch this video encouragement (and confession).

Honesty—People who feel they can’t express themselves honestly to their spouse often travel down a dangerous road to find someone who listens and understands. This chapter will help you set the ground rules that open the lines of communication between you and your mate. 

Let’s discuss Chapter 4 (Honesty) #MarriageRocks

Read Chapter 4 of 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Marriage. Reflect and journal the following questions. If you signed up, you will receive a free download today in email that you can use.

  1. Here are 4 helpful things to remember when setting ground rules for honesty in marriage: watch your words, listen attentively, speak honestly, keep a positive perspective. Which do you find the hardest to do?


  1. Do you remember a time when a “tiny spark set a great forest of fire” in your marriage? (James 3:5)


  1. What are some verses you can pray to help you to really listen and give your spouse your full attention?


We will see you back here on Wednesday to discuss Chapter 5.

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 Better sex in Christian Marriage

February 20 2016

Wayne & Sue Detweiler (Speakers and Hosts) With over 25 years of marriage and ministry experience, Sue & Wayne will motivate you to build a strong and intimate marriage. You will be strengthen by their biblical encouragement and then led through Marriage Exercises to help you revitalize your marriage. Your investment will help your marriage last a life time.

Included in registration cost is the book “9 Traits of a Life-Giving Marriage” and materials for each couple.

9:00 am Registration & Give Aways on Saturday

9:30 am – 5:30 pm Saturday (Sessions & Exercises)

Special Musical Guest/Worship Leader – Lance List